@hantira2000

Failed to overcome LMR

I went on a four dates with a girl and yesterday on the fifth took her to my place. I put on some music and sat next to her, but when I went in for the kiss she pulled away. I tried escalating 2 more times but she said she just wanted to talk. I was completely pissed and she left soon after. When I got home I sent her a text trying to keep things alive for the future saying I had a good time. She responded with a long text saying that I was rushing, didn't care about her feelings, etc. I told her that I did care about her (lie) but just couldn't help myself. We agreed to talk tomorrow, which is today. What did I do wrong? I might have escalated too quickly on the night and not built enough comfort. Do you think that this situation is salvageable? I think that it's salvageable but it will take me a lot of time to earn back her trust and get the lay.

Anything's possible, but you've not provided not enough information to suggest taking any sort of action would lead to a good outcome for you. Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

For now, you should focus on other things and other girls. Don't ever waste your time lying to people. It's a habit that tends to bleed over into other things and create problems for you as the liar, especially as you're male. The only response you should've made to her text was to say, "I'll talk to you later" and make a note to talk to her sometime the following week. Out of curiosity, did you two kiss at anytime during the previous four dates?