@iautrptgl

I've recently been very locked in/monk mode and I love it, would appreciate your guys thoughts on it

I've had varying success with women, and it comes down to me having varying success with myself. Not being able to lose weight/get into shape, not being disciplined with my studies, work and diet. I've falling into the feeling of FOMO and going out with my mates/drinking "just because". Now most of my friends have gone travelling for 6 months (they finished their articles and are doing a gap year), so this year I've decided to lock in. I'm cleaning up my diet, gymming religiously, fixing all the body issues I have (ankle, shoulders etc.) and signed up for 2 board exams (each are 500 hours recommended study time).

The thing is, I fucking love it. I love waking up sober, I love grinding throughout the day at gym/studying/work/whatever task I have. It's honestly the best I have felt in years. But I strangely feel some guilt, my friends who are still in town want to see me, they want me to go out and drink with them but I keep declining because I just don't want to, I want to wake up tomorrow and fucking kill it.

Has anyone been in a similar place to this? I do worry that right now I'm going to become a bit of a loner and entire monk mode which I'm fine with, but I also recognise the importance of socialising for your mental health. Would appreciate any advice for "monk mode" and making sure I don't burn out during this

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It's good to read that spending sometime in retreat has been a net positive for your overall health, such that you're ready to engage your professional-academic, diet, and physical fitness goals. As your life gains momentum it may become difficult to maintain focus on the various goals you set out to accomplish as new challenges come into awareness. To that end, it may help for you to get yourself two sheets of paper, a pen, and do the following.

On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.

When you're done with the second list, keep it someplace you won't forget. The challenge once you've got the list done won't be simply accomplishing them, but not allowing yourself to be de-spirited whenever you encounter difficulty, or failure. To not let yourself be defeated. You'll spend the time to troubleshoot and diagnose the problem, resume, or start over. Study the book so you're ready to resume engaging females. If you otherwise need help, ask. There's no shortage of #books we can recommend that may help you achieve your goal.

Best of luck to you.

@iautrptgl

Is it still possible for an overweight guy to be successful with women?

In recent years I felt out of the red pill/manosphere but have recently been reignited and have decided to recommit. The issue is in recent years I have gained a fair amount of weight, I do gym consistently and have a decent amount of muscle, but I’d say I have a layer of blubber around my stomach/chest (I am 5’10, 220lbs and around 25% bf).

This extra weight has definitely affected my confidence when it comes to approaching, so I’m interested to see what the community thinks regarding male weight. I think it will essentially come down to a question of how strong the fat man’s (me) frame is, if he is confident enough and practice the correct techniques he should still be successful. However there is also the truth that fat is not as attractive as ripped, and would be interested to see how the community views it

After you put together a diet and exercise plan to help you shed those unwanted pounds, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.