GF expects me to always drive her from work
We are both 25. Recently her dad helped me with buying a car as I don't know anything about them and he had his fair share of cars in life. I work 3 days from home and 2 days on site. She is working at the restaurant as waitress (she starts uni soon but only 2 times a month on the weekends). I work 7 30 to 15 30 and she is working 11 00 to 21 or 22, not every day because mixed schedule. We are currently arguing wheter i should always drive her from work to house (we live together) but I dont feel like its reasonable. I told her that she has a bus and it would be cheaper, she told me that she doesn't like taking buses when its dark because its sketchy at night. So I told her I can drive her from work but not everyday and she got angry saying its weird to her and all her friends from work have boyfriends that drive them, that her dad helped me buy a car and I should want my girlfriend to be safe. I feel it's either I drive her always or we cant come to compromise.
I honestly doesn't know if Im in the wrong here, her arguments seem kinda valid? But at the same time im not her chauffeur, she is a grown adult and can take the fucking bus, its not like im not exhausted after work.
My answer to this is I should stick to my boundary and not drive her and see what happens but this doesn't seem fair somehow, am I gaslighted here?
Edit: I feel like I should add that she cooks clean I buy grocieres, we try to split expenses but I still provide more. She has 6 min to bus station from work and then she has to wait 10 to 20 minutes for bus, after that she has 3 min from bus station to home. Driving her takes 30 to 40 min total.
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