Hello everyone,

I've recently embraced the red pill and am eager to connect with others on this path. At 26, I've spent much of my life as a die-hard romantic, always treating women with respect and kindness, looking for that perfect symmetrical relationship of care and support. Despite these efforts, I've been through a rollercoaster of relationships with attractive partners. Last year, a painful breakup with my girlfriend—who left me for an older man due to my clingy behavior—was a serious wake-up call. I managed to win her back using strategies from Corey Wayne, only to realize she was a 304 and end things for good.

This breakup catalyzed my dive into personal growth in masculinity and dating dynamics, leading to a phase of casual relationships. However, I eventually fell for someone special, my oneitis, who initially reciprocated but grew distant as I reverted to old habits. I wanted to make her my girlfriend (wrong mindset ik). After two months of dating she read into my intentions and said she wasn't looking for a relationship. I ended up things only to text her again after 3 weeks. We got back to it again but this time I had already read some redpill content and was trying a different approach, practising detachment, treating her like just one more girl and keeping emotional distance. This had a dramatic effect on her interest, she started to go crazy for me and after couple weeks she told me that she needed things to go back to something more "stable" and "linear" (basically: having me back to my beta, clingy ways for her to regain full power). I was blunt and clumsy due to my overwhelming emotional investment: I refused to comply so she dumped me. She was a party girl, unnatural hair colour, openly feminist and bisexual and didn't respect her dad, also bad relationship with her family, so she wasn't long term material. Anyhow, I realized that I lost a great prospect for FWB-sex playmates (also threesome potential) because I wouldn't admit to myself that I wanted sex and fun, I'm still ashamed of my sexuality and my sexual desire and this leads to me being overly respectful and not assertive in sexual encounters.

Now, three months post-breakup, I'm grappling with intense suffering, longing and guilt. I feel like she's the most attractive girl in the world and I could never attract anyone as hot and fun as she was. But, I'm committed to learning from this. I'm focusing on casual dating to better manage my feelings and desires without overcommitting emotionally. I've taken up new hobbies like Brazilian jiu-jitsu, learning how to be a better masculine man, upgraded my wardrobe, looking for a brotherhood and I'm pursuing my ideal job. Next time I'll do things right from the get go. I just wasn't expecting to receive the interest of such an attractive girl. It was the first time in my life that I had dated the "best I can do" girl.

I'm here to share experiences and gain perspectives from those who have navigated similar paths or are curious about this journey. If this community is active, I hope we can support each other and grow together.

Looking forward to meaningful discussions and shared growth.

Hey nerds,

Most of my previous posts about pulling had a positive outcome. Free thinkers however, benefit more from learning off other's mistakes. But ultimately it's the humongous dick having sigma-chad males who adopt a solid mindset that gets the worm.

Instead of listing out my countless mistakes, I've written a summary of what all these mistakes lead up to. My ultimate truth (mindset).

The thing about mistakes is, if you aren't perfect, you're gonna have to make them. Mistakes reveal you to yourself. Mistakes are like teachers. But too many people just don't bloody listen, the same way they don't see their own folly. They don't know that they don't know and that is a fucking tragedy.

Foundation The most important thing I learned to develop from my mistakes while getting pussy was mindset.

Mindset is a power that knows no limit. Think David Goggins, Alex Honalds. You can't fuck the smelly obese pansexual pink hair girl? No, actually you can! Why place limits on yourself? Just believe.

Second to mind-set would be one's ability to be in the moment.

Followed by emotional mastery. You know the deal.

EQ is another skill that can be improved infinitely. Having solid EQ is necessary to glue everything together. The higher your EQ, the more solid it holds the foundation together. Actually, EQ is an underrated topic in the manosphere. All my success grtting laid has been found mostly in improving EQ trait.

Every other skill such as charm, wit, humor yadda yadda follows naturally once a solid foundation develops.

The mindset that's really worked for me is striving for genuine connection over sex.

Where there js genuine connection, there's an abundance of pussy and may it ease your erection.

This is akin to

Chase money and the girls chase you. Money can be replaced with purpose.

Work on yourself, and the girls will follow.

If you chase butterflies, they'll fly away from you. Instead, work on building your garden which attracts the butterflies.

Fun challenge (also kinda productive, depends on the person though) to improve your EQ within a year.

Get to 1000 followers on instagram in 1 year. Any follower you haven't personally met does not count. You only gotta get 20ish followers a week. It gets easier the more you do it. Script You:hey your styles rad, where'd you get that jacket from? (Fashion topic ties to instagram) Girl/guy/your grandma: it's from xyz You:oh cool, talk some shit, you on insta? I'll follow you. Takes 3-5 minutes. It's much faster in the mosh pit. You won't need a script. Just do some sign language and hand your phone to them with instagram open. They'll get the idea.

Once I got 7 followers in like 3 minutes cause my phone got passed around a group and they all put their instagrams in it.

Now, you could just imagine the wonders this little challenge could do for your preselection.

Instagram has no age limit either. Every genz person has it installed, and older people who use instagram are considered quite hip.

I've gained 150 followers the last 2 weeks from going out 5 nights. Each night I get 20-40 follows from just talking to people.

Assuming this trend continues, thats 300 followers per month.

Instagram does wonders for your pre-selection. This is because profiles display mutual followers.

Tits

@Typo-MAGAshiv Ok she didn’t let me cop anything first date. She was really socially awkward and nervous. But she was really flirty and she said “I’m just looking for a friend” but then whispered “with benefits”. So, I left the date and just said “hit me up when you feel like it” and didn’t send any text or get a text after.

I feel like I was being autistic because when we left she stared at me really hard and kept saying she was cold and tired and just wanted to go back home and sleep. I was going to make a move but I didn’t want to pressure it too much because she kept suggesting this was just a warmup to get her comfy. I was going to suggest something else but I didn’t want to suggest going back to her place cause we took separate cars.

But, I think she’ll hit me up tomorrow because she told me she’d be off at 5:30 and said she has nothing to do.

I think it’d be best to, even though I really want to beta out and ask tomorrow, just not text and see when she hits me back up.

Sorry for the long ass speech. Do you think I was okay?