Eurm

about a month ago  The Public Square

What to do when your girl consantly trys to improve you in front of your friends.

I feel like when I make a little speaking mistake or say something where I can get dragged down she’s likes to be a smart ass…

I wonder where this behavior is coming from?

She almost doesn’t know any of my friends and it seems to me she likes to proof something…

It only happens in these situations.

Would love your insight.

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carnold03

2 months ago  The Public Square

@Eurm

The girl I’m dating is going meeting friends tonight that is 2 men.

1 of them is the best friend of her ex.

I always feel trapped in this scenario. On one hand, I know nothing will happen but it triggers me that she's with 2 male “friends”

My dad got cheated on by my mom who ran away with a good friend of his.

I know this is deep but right now I'm being cold and pretending that it doesn't do me much because I'm the price.

But It does me a lot.

I wonder how you guys would act in this scenario?

Thank you

If this is the same girl you mentioned last month, then continue to listen to what your gut tells you. Whether something may or may not have happened while she was with these guys shouldn't be what you focus on. She's not your wife, mother to any of your children, your fiancee, nor a likely prospect, so unless you're doing something ill-advised like living with her you're far from trapped with her. In the grand scheme of your life, she's just a girl you've been dating for a while, and not much else, but your gut is clearly telling you she's not going to be an ideal choice.

I can understand your feelings regarding your parents failed marriage influencing you, but it doesn't tend to end well for men who ignore their gut feelings. If you want to continue dating her, then do so. If you don't, then don't. My only suggestion is that until such a time as you find a woman you think has all the points you understand are necessary for a relationship to work and not provoke a bad gut feeling, you build up an inventory of plates and get to spinning and only keep the ones that do provoke good gut feelings.

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Eurm

2 months ago  The Public Square

@Aging-Chad and I still believe in first but I'm just afraid I guess

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Eurm

2 months ago  The Public Square

@Aging-Chad I get that but I never communicated to her either that it isn’t cool to me. Here in portugal a lot of people have so called “friends” who are from the same sex.

(It’s still hard for me to believe) but I see it a lot and I’m trying to make sure about this situation with out being needy.

She just booked with me a flight back to visit my familie etc.

How do I figure this out?

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Eurm

2 months ago  The Public Square

The girl I’m dating is going meeting friends tonight that is 2 men.

1 of them is the best friend of her ex.

I always feel trapped in this scenario. On one hand, I know nothing will happen but it triggers me that she's with 2 male “friends”

My dad got cheated on by my mom who ran away with a good friend of his.

I know this is deep but right now I'm being cold and pretending that it doesn't do me much because I'm the price.

But It does me a lot.

I wonder how you guys would act in this scenario?

Thank you

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Eurm

3 months ago  The Public Square

Guys,

I wonder how you deal with feeling with a buddy who keeps “negging you. In particular in a group. I think he wants to use this frame as becoming an alpha to bring the others out of balance.

I understand that I should use AA and mainly I do this. But it gets tiring after a while because it’s almost every time I want to explain something.

I know it’s kind of his personality and sometimes I do make negging jokes about him but i feel his intention is different because its in particular in a group setting.

Sometimes I don’t even feel finishing my story because he breaks it apart.

Curious to hear what you think how to deal with this.

Thanks in advance

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TwoInchesOfShaft

3 months ago  The Public Square

@Eurm when I started dating my girl she said she was a feminist too, but she did not act like one at all. (Watch her actions) After being with me for a few months, chasing after me and learning her place in the hierarchy, she said she’s not a feminist and that’s her opinion since. Feminists are really believing their own BS and it’s not a real shit test, because it’s a conscious act. The solution is to let her be feminine with you, bring out the submissive nature in her and then very slowly make her realize that she’s submissive and likes it outside of the bedroom. She will see that now her subconscious and conscious mind line up perfectly. She feels good. She doesn’t have to fight her nature anymore.

The life’s good for her and for you. Ignore the feminist shit in the beginning and just AA, then proceed as laid out. Don’t agree but don’t discuss with her. Debate shows that you are on her level, but you want her to be one below. As aging chad said, it’s not her shit test, it’s a societal one. She’s just saying what a good little programmed girl is supposed to.

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NightwingTRP

3 months ago  The Public Square

@Eurm Dread had an impact. Hence the super-attentive BJ

I'd have told her if she goes there with other lads without me then we aren't a couple anymore. Concerts are great places to shag anonymously and she probably damned well knows this. If she pretends otherwise she's openly lying to and disrespecting you.

I would let her do whatever she wanted to do. I set the rules, she does whatever she likes... the consequences happen.

You're not a champ, she's manipulating you. It's a massive red flag for a woman to try to use sex to get what she wants.

There's little more to say here... you made a bad LTR call. How many plates have you spun anyway?

Eurm

3 months ago  The Public Square

@Aging-Chad What would have been preventable? Telling her? Or not dating her in the first place?

I think you’re right. I hold my frame but will sense if she’s fooling with me.

How do you check in with chicks where there might be a chance?

It’s difficult because I don’t want to not allow her to go but I wonder what she would think if I go with to “girlfriends” go and dance…

So I want to explain this to her in the best way possible

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Eurm

3 months ago  The Public Square

@NeoSpartan Thanks for the insight! Yes I don’t even know what it is but some half Portuguese hip hop. I didn’t even ask haha.

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