@AnubiswithaDNR

I’m interested to hear what you’d go about your girlfriend acting out of obligation.

Having gotten your commitment, she sees no reason to do her part of the bargain, chores, or even bother to put in attraction or effort to the relationship.

Now i’m thinking what am i actually getting out of this relationship.

Yup.

Look, I know this really sucks when you're in one of these relationships, but the sad reality is that women are just not able to do monogamy in the way that we are told they can.

She isn't acting out of obligation or out of reciprocation. She is doing the bare minimum to maintain your financial commitment. She is negotiating downwards her required efforts.

I don't have a solution for you other than the observation that you have lost control. You have to keep paying but she does not have to continue putting in efforts. You are in a situation where you do not have control, you cannot remove your side of what you supply, you can't avoid paying the bills. But she sure can avoid doing housework.

Some way some how you need to regain control. Either that's threats of leaving..... or better: completely change everything in your relationship so that you have control over what you supply. What you offer has to be conditional or women will always adapt to extract your resources for the minimum of effort.