@Jocbro

But from her side, she seemed to feel like I had too many options, that she was replaceable, and that I could never really love her specifically. Eventually it felt like my value became a threat instead of reassurance.

Counterpoint: this wasn't actually true. This is what she said. It was a negotiation tactic to force your hand to show more commitment and marry her.

Competition anxiety creates even more attraction. It does not make women leave.

I don't think attraction was the problem, I think she wanted to lock down a provider and this wasn't on the table for her.

@Bozza This is "common law marriage", and it has existed in Scotland but not England until now. Obviously this is fucking terrible for men because it is marriage by the back door. To any man cohabiting for more than 2 years, get out now. When they bring this law in, it will apply to you retrospectively. Make other arrangements, move out, do a trial separation. If you don't do this, you will suddenly find yourself with all of the downsides of being married. Your live-in girlfriend will change as a result of this power shift. Things will not stay the same. Things will change and you will lose. Ask any man married for more than 3 years. Get out while you can.

@First-light "A fairer end to relationships".

Fairer for who exactly? Let's see if we can guess ....

@SwarmShawarma I like to break this shit down so that I can tackle it in all its forms:

"Men just don't know how to be men" is of course a logical impossibility.

So what's she saying? She is saying "I try to shame men for failing to be the version of masculine that I want them to be, so that they wise up and serve me better - only by serving me do I give them the tick of approval of something that they care about: masculinity in the eyes of a woman".

The thing is..... we're over it. Shaming tactics work in 1995. But now we've realised that it's all a lie and that the promised land of her approval leads to dead bedrooms and cuckolding.

The only answer is "We don't care what you think".

@deeplydisturbed There is nothing to be afraid of.

She can't get pregnant and we're not stupid enough to marry them.

Enjoy the ride :)

@mattyanon she looks more like the Crypt Keeper than many women well into their 60s. Her chin and cheekbones made me think of an aftermarket string trimmer head.

@MentORPHEUS "Maybe if I lose enough weight then people will overlook my age"

@Bozza So I just scan a couple of things, and comment only where I can add value

@Bozza Yeah...... I like forums: I can see the original context, add comments, talk about one thing.

The twitter style of "comment on the last thing and ignore all context and keep changing the subject and endlessly chatting with no end" ..... that just feels like it's only benefitting engagement.

@Bozza reddit?