Well somewhere around the industrial revolution we went from being an agrarian society to an industrial one.
Something something and it’s consequences have been something something for the human race.
Actually, can the pop hit, I’ve got a better idea!
Many many moons ago a boy, when he reached around the age of 5, would leave the house each and every morning and go to work the fields or a trade with his father. There he would learn the value of sweat equity and the value of earning a wage/living. He would also learn how men behave, talk, and interact with others by observing and (when ready) participating in conversation and activities with men.
Meanwhile the daughters were left at home with the mother to learn how to be a girl/woman and do traditionally female tasks. She also learned how to deal with other women (read: gossip, be bitchy, etc). She would also observe how the women shared info on treating their man...blah blah blah...you get the picture.
Well somewhere around the industrial revolution we went from being an agrarian society to an industrial one. Men would now go off to the factory or office to earn a wage. Kids (male and female) would be left at home with the mother. As society grew we started implementing educational standards and creating schools for the mother to dump the kids while dad was at work.
Fast forward about a hundred years...we have generations of people who grew up without a father in the home. There might have been a father but he did not spend the quality time with his children that was possible for previous generations. Therefore, we have boys being raised by their mother, their female teachers, and their female neighbors (etc etc etc) never having seen or been taught how men are. They spend their entire impressionable life attempting to make their mother and female teachers happy, following their mother's and female teacher's orders, behaving how their mother and female teacher's said they should, and treating girls/girlfriends/women/wives how they were taught by their mother and female teachers. Add in the constant barrage of influence exerted by social media, movies, tv, books, and other outside influence that all preach "being a gentleman", "men should pay for dates", and every other cliche line of bullshit that we hear growing up then it is nothing short of a pure fucking miracle that any male child born after 1940 is masculine and does not cater to the female agenda. Cowardice, insatiability, dissatisfaction, uncontrollable desire, constant want, feminism, fear, timidity, uncertainty, indecision, no morals, no ethics, no empathy, no values, selfishness, majority conformity, and many other negative characteristics are all female traits that were forced upon the male of our species. They do not come naturally to us therefore we are broken and brainwashed by the female hive to follow instead of lead as we were destined.
We are all a product of our society and the values that it instills upon us. Luckily some have learned to not follow but most are sheep. They would rather drink toxic water because it is calm and still instead of fresh water in a stream because they are afraid of the movement.Read More
I always assumed that 7 years was the amount of time for the balance of attraction and toleration to shift. A woman whom is married and pops out a kid or two has commitment and leverage. Therefore, she no longer has to do anything to keep her man or keep him happy. Around the 7 year mark his need for female companionship and sex (read: a woman attracted to and caring for him) has outweighed his sense of responsibility to her. This is accelerated by her passing all responsibility to him, nagging, her natural aging, and letting her (body and mind) self turn to shit by apathy and outside influence.
Just my $0.02
You may want to watch that flick to the end. It has been a while since I've seen it but IIRC Doofy ended up being the Keyser Söze of that comedy spoof movie.
For those that don't get the reference, watch The Usual Suspects.
But to your underlying point...yep confidence is a very big part of being attractive and not being unattractive. I'm no expert but I'm pretty sure that is why "Fake it 'till you make it" is one of the steps in most of our journeys.