@Stigma

even if you’re a bit hapless you can use the bar girls as training wheels

Idk if this qualifies as "good " advice for guys who hold a poor success rate with the ladies of their own home country. The annals of divorce and other complex break up horror stories have entire branches on Filipina, Thai, and others, that make an entire cottage industry of fishing for a foreign chump to clamp their talons on, and superficially USE as a ticket out of their low opportunity trap of a country.

I can't tell you how many such guys I've met well along this dire pathway, with a palpable cloud of defeat and resignation over their entire personhood, trapped with an aggressive and domineering diminutive tiger wife turned tiger Mom, who even after a quarter century of immersion among English speakers, still speaks with a brash accent that sounds like a gaylord of truck coil springs tipped down a multi story concrete stairwell.

It's not even a beta exclusive risk factor, ex military dudes make a huge portion of the guys so entrapped. Only Unicorn quantity exceptions I've seen, where i don't overwhelmingly think, that's no kind of life i would want.

I mean sure, have some short term vacation fun if you can wing it. Just don't let the Little Head do all the thinking on taking it to LTR level and beyond, FFS.

@MiracleAligner

How to safely end relationship with severe BPD girl

She is extermely emotionally unstable. Everytime we have a fight she goes into a psychotic episode, ive never seen a person like this. Its a vey delicate situation because these people are dangerous, to themselves first but also they are prone to doing crazy shit and i dont want this thing from my past haunting me for the rest of my life. I've postponed the breakup for so long because i wanted to somehow make it right and have a amicable closure, unfortunately it seems that is not happening. Lately the relationship has turned abusive and im taking it like a chump, just being nice to her while trying to find a strategic way out, but i havent been able to. She lives with me so that makes things harder, i genuinely feel like the only way out is moving out and somehow creating a situation where she cant live with me anymore, then slowly let this all fade away. I repeat, sitting her down and beaking up is not an option, ive already tried this several times before and the aneurysm she gets into makes me take a step back, i genuinely am scared for her mental health but also for my security. I need a strategic way out and im asking for your help here

www.youtube.com/watch?v=mw2kKyJu9gY