@GeorgeIII

Does It Make Sense to Start a Relationship with her?

Hi all, I’ve got a girl who I could potentially start a relationship with here. I wanted to hear some thoughts from more experienced members of the community.

My background: I’m a 31M, been at least somewhat RP aware since 2021. I used to be a total 0 with girls, late term virgin, all that. So naturally never had an actual GF. But been able to get a few short term things here and there since then. I’ve been poking around at venues by myself on the side and have another high IoI prospect off on the horizon, but that’s it for other women in my life right now.

About us: I’ve been seeing the girl (26F) about 6 weeks. We met at a hobby group, I gave her a challenge, told her she would win a drink if she did it, and she did. So I took her out dancing. Since then, a mix of dancing, other meetings, and of course bedroom activities. When she asked early in, I told her I am not looking for a relationship right now and want to stay casual. She was ok with it at the time.

She is very flirty and touchy with me outside of sex. She also came to my place to cook for me when I was sick and had me over for dinner twice (which again she cooked). When we go out, we are 50/50 on cost, by her own insistence. She works in corporate and is somewhat feminist and liberal and all that, but not to the point of blue hair and asking me to read Virginia Wolfe. I also like that we come from a somewhat similar ethnic background (both children of immigrants, both at least part Asian). Despite being liberal, I also think she is much smarter and more reasonable than the majority of girls (and people) I’ve come to know.

Interesting kicker: She says was a virgin before meeting me. I know the usual “women lie about body count” stuff, but from what I’ve seen, I actually do believe she was, from how awkward and unknownledgable she is in the bedroom ways. She says she has been in 2 relationships, one with a Christian dude who wanted to wait till marriage, the other a dude who she kissed and did hand stuff with (she said, without me asking). From what I see, she followed a study hard -> corporate nun path without much dating or partying, due to Covid in the middle. I’ve heard all about pair bonding, virginity, and how taking too many dicks ruins bonding, hence why I’m writing so much about it.

The dynamic between us is that she thinks I’m much more experienced than her and that I’m “a player” and “mysterious”, which I will certainly continue to play off of.

Very recently, she told me that she would want to hear if I do fuck another woman on the side honestly, but that she would be hurt and she does want commitment, and is worried that I’m just using her for sex. I told her that as a guy I like being able to sleep with other girls when I want, but that I do value my time with her outside sex and feel a connection with her, all of which I really believe, myself.

She cried a bit but I was able to assuage her that I wasn’t going to just suddenly poof out of her life, and she said she would table the commitment talk a few 3 months. We then fucked the next morning lol.

Obviously, I’ve at least bought myself time. I’m open to the idea of a non-marriage relationship, as I’ve never been in one, and don’t want to give up my commitment easily or too quickly. But I’ve also never really had to seriously vet or consider a GF, as I knew for sure in my past stuff I wasn’t going to LTR the girls.

What does the community think here? Is this a solid prospect to start off with? And am I overvaluing taking her virginity?

TLDR: been casually seeing a girl who is a few years younger than me for 6 weeks. I’ve got no LTR experience. Took her virginity. I enjoy spending time with her both in and out of the bedroom. She is pushing for commitment, will want a decision in 3 months. Is she a solid prospect to proceed? And am I overvaluing her virginity?

Attempt to answer myself: I should use the time I’ve bought to keep vetting her, and not immediately throw her in the LTR or casual only piles. In the meantime, I should explore that one other peripheral prospect and find others, and fuck them if possible. And be honest with this girl in this post if I do, part to not be a liar and part to test her attraction for me.

You don't need our permission or approval to take, or pass on, any female, buy what's done is done. Though you've been honest with her about your intentions, she's clearly a highly motivated plate determined to earn a promotion to something more in life. So, she'll treat you well, until she has reason to do otherwise.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

The problem is that your lack of discipline and experience is what's made your life interesting. While you're only now considering tapping the brakes, I doubt that she'll be otherwise easily deterred. She's already got you letting her fill your belly and drain your balls into her. I wouldn't be surprised that she fully expects to beat out her competition if things keep going like this.

Good job, keep it up.

Good times ahead until she realizes that despite everything she's done, you're not going to change your mind. That's usually when things can get interesting and experience has taught me that Asian females can escalate things surprisingly fast.

@lurkerhasarisen

Actress Selma Blair tried to open an airplane door in-flight, then attacked a flight attendant, a cop, and a nurse. Blood shedding and bites ensued, along with federal and state charges. Her lawyer claims that she experienced a medical emergency brought on by missing her meds. Her bond was set comically low, and she left the courthouse with her lawyer. If any of us had done that we would be in Riker’s indefinitely.

Women VS Accountability

So women can dodge accountability by virtue of not taking something they should have taken (The Lindsey Clancy Defense), and also for taking something they shouldn’t have taken (The Lucy Craig Defense). Needless to say, nobody (least of all an icky MAN), can have control over what a woman ingests or fails to ingest.

I really wish feminists would just pick a lane. Either women are adults with full agency who should be required to accept full responsibility for their actions, or they are not, in which case they should have significant limits on their autonomy.

newsnationnow.com/entertainment-news/selma-blair-delta-flight-attendants-fight/amp/

The situation strikes me as real. I just don't believe it had anything to do with her failing to take her head meds. Females your age with health problems, that don't otherwise hate living, have set dose routines and rarely travel without their prescriptions. You're a kinder man than I, but I can't say I pity her situation with what her wikipedia profile hints at.

This bird rolls with prominent, if not otherwise highly visible, folks among the oligarchs of the western hegemony. More likely than not, someone saw her being locked in an aluminum can for a few hours as an opportunity to give her a long hard dose of the Maduro beam, not unlike the woman in the following scene from "Cat's Eye" (1985). So much so, that if the article can be believed, a woman around your age, who likely only does aerobics, pilates, and running, actually fought others on the plane in a passionate attempt to experience the sweet release of death.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yl4-b91QgnQ

Someone sent a clear message with that and deflecting attention from her getting Maduro beamed as a medical emergency is the only way this makes sense. There's been a lot of that going around for a while. Regardless, while status and fame has its privilege, it always comes with a price. Her sort knew that before they joined the inner ring and eventually everyone has to pay.