@sharknado

O What do you guys thing of the black pill and the rise in popularity of looksmaxxing? i'm sure you have answered this before but i am curious on what you think the importance of looks in dating is. I used to use this website when i was younger for learning game, i have grown older now and just thought i'd have a look

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

Black pilled guys strike me as working through the stages of grief, but stuck specifically on depression for some reason. It's similar to what I see with guys expressing red pill rage, they're hung up on the anger stage of grief for their own reasons. Finding out you've been lied to for most of your life forces you to reprocess a lot of past information and experience as you realign your thinking.

Looks-maxing is unsettling to me, because while being good looking has importance, guys who subscribe to it with such intensity tend to be narcissists. I think a lot of guys who subscribe to that thinking are otherwise stuck in the denial stage of grief. They know enough to grasp that the guy they are at the time of realization isn't one others will find attractive. So, they delude themselves into thinking that if they consume product, develop a body builder physique, or internalize the current media assigned thing that this will make them attractive. It doesn't go well for the ones who can't grasp that that alone isn't going to enable them to achieve their goals.

Reality is that productive men are in a constant state of revision and improvement. So long as a guy steers clear of drugs, sex, and violence during those time of reflection they'll come out of it for the better.

@Saltycroc

Plate ended things- where did I go wrong?

I've been seeing this girl since October, I met her at a halloween party, where she cheated on her boyfriend with me. I kept talking to her, went on a few dates and we had sex twice since the party. I woke up seeing she removed me on snapchat and a message from her saying "your ego is too big and its not funny any more so I'm going to remove you" I hadn't messaged her for about 5 days before this, so maybe that was the reason? Maybe I was too much of an "asshole" and didn't show enough beta qualities to keep her around longer?

is there any way to salvage this? I feel like if she was serious about ending things she would have blocked me instead of just removing me (I can still message her), but maybe that's just my big ego lol.

If not, would anyone have an idea as to where I went wrong?

Study the book. Nothing of value was lost on your part. Plates break. It's just what they do. If anything, you dodged a bullet with this one.

It reads like you both were having yourselves some nice sloppy fun until she decided to make the pseudo-dramatic online exit. Thing is, a plate exiting from your life is inevitable, so why care? You weren't looking to be exclusive with her, and her attempting to monkey branch to you from her boyfriend, she demonstrated a clear inability to be loyal.