Can’t cut contact cause she supports me financially. I live away from her, but in the same city. She is the most unbearable person I have to deal with. Typical AWALT example. Failed marriage with my irresponsible father(I wonder why she stayed with him for 15 years. Hmmm.) Blames my “supposed” father for everything that went wrong in her/my older sister’s life. Always compares me to him. She is getting fatter and uglier by the year. ZERO accountability. I have tried to reason and have honest conversations with her, but to ABSOLUTELY no avail. Whether about her mental health, physical health, boundaries, her fuck ups with how she brought me up (or lack there of).
My main issue here is that she wants me to be her bitch. She says shit like “It’s not manhood to say curse words, it doesn’t make you more of a men.” (Yet she respected the guy who treated her like shit and was paying the bills/everything instead of him) She blames me for getting angry at her stupidity, giving me false information, blatant lies. She’s the most undependable person when it comes to information. She’d rather make shit up than tell the truth or say she doesn’t know.
She never got “payback” or got her “justice” from my father, so she just projects everything on me. I am the only male in the family basically, with two older, as you would expect, whore sister, who got princess treatment from my mother all their lives. They created this “us vs him(me) mentality as I got tired of all their shit. Sister’s literally abused me all my life, until I cut all contact with them. So they have this pact mentality against their own brother/son.
How to deal with a narcissistic mother who tries to bitch me up by ridiculing me, disrespecting me in private and in public, tries to teach me about masculinity as a failed mother with two failed marriages and half a dozen failed relationships(that I know of), favors her two girls over me, oblivious to her shortcomings and toxic behavior?
This will teach you how to deal with narcissists. Outside of that, it's best that when you come cross other narcissists in the future, you keep your mouth shut, and get as far away from them as fast as possible. Fortunately, you're half-way there. Unfortunately, the problem now isn't that your mother's a fat narcissist, but that your continued financial dependence on your mother forces you to put up with her belittlement and ridicule of your shortcomings.
Right now, focus on becoming financially independent. Even a part-time minimum wage job will help you to slowly build the savings needed to achieve that goal. If you live in a country that offers job, vocation, or career training programs, look to enroll yourself in them as well, so you can gain the knowledge and skills to generate a better income. Best of luck to you.Read More
Came across this guy that was getting hammered by a girl very near to my home. Her tone was really aggressive. She's telling him stuff like "it's none of your business" and giving him a talking to, while he is completely in her frame, listening, looking bleak. She is making fun of him and doing that passive aggressive laugh/smile. Then she tells him to bounce. Bro started following her, walking behind her as she was going into her apartment building. She told him to leave again. He just stood there for a while, in front of her apartment building, looking at his phone (probably trying to text her or whatever)
I think he should have left her and walked away AS SOON as she caught an attitude. I believe that there was definitely plenty of disrespect prior to this situation. It starts small, then gets bigger and bigger.
How would you react in a similar situation?
You can't get aggressive, she'll just shout and claim abuse. And if you take the disrespect once, you'll get it plenty more. It's a lose-lose situation.
Just walk away and ghost?
What are your thoughts?
Only one...Read More