The less time you spend building rapport before sex, the more likely that she'll have regrets/ASD after it?
Fairly often I get with girls within an hour or even minutes of meeting them. Like I match with her on tinder, meet her at a park, after 30 minutes I suggest going to my place, she comes. Or we match on tinder and straight up invite myself to her place in the 1st few messages.
Then the sex is good, we actually have things to talk about, she laughs and all that. Usually I ask her to hangout again few days later, sometimes they accept, sometimes they flake. Most times after a few more bootycalls or texts, she starts acting skittish and pulling back. Some start acting more quiet (in a nervous/anxious way tho) in person in the subsequent hangouts before ghosting, some just ghost before a 2nd hangout happens.
Is this ASD or what? Maybe I'm tryna see them too soon after the 1st date fuck? How do I prevent this?
Read MoreThe less time you spend building rapport before sex, the more likely that she'll have regrets/ASD after it?
Fairly often I get with girls within an hour or even minutes of meeting them. Like I match with her on tinder, meet her at a park, after 30 minutes I suggest going to my place, she comes. Or we match on tinder and straight up invite myself to her place in the 1st few messages.
Then the sex is good, we actually have things to talk about, she laughs and all that. Usually I ask her to hangout again few days later, sometimes they accept, sometimes they flake. Most times after a few more bootycalls or texts, she starts acting skittish and pulling back. Some start acting more quiet (in a nervous/anxious way tho) in person in the subsequent hangouts before ghosting, some just ghost before a 2nd hangout happens.
Is this ASD or what? How do I prevent this?
Read MoreDo british hoes have a highpowered ASD?
Aight so I'm a european immigrant and I've had several experiences of british bitches acting super hoeish with me and then turning to a fucking bitchy attitude in a minute. Like, tinder hoe invites me over straight to her place, sucks my dick, she's like "you're so hot, can't believe you like me all the way", then she ghosts me, I don'y sweat it, then I run into her on the street, she starts small talk, I'm polite, 2 hours later she blocks me.
Then another one grinds with me on the danceflooor, we make out and I kiss her neck, then once the club's closed I try to game her and she's acting like I owe her money, all hostile, like "you don't stop asking questions ugh" and she goes home with a local bartener she knows, giving me glances like "you see I'm not going home with you"
Then another bitch, pretty similar experience.
What the fuck is this
Read MoreDo british hoes have a highpowered ASD? Aight so I'm a european immigrant and I've had several experiences of british bitches acting super hoeish with me and then turning to a fucking bitchy attitude in a minute. Like, tinder hoe invites me over straight to her place, sucks my dick, she's like "you're so hot, can't believe you like me all the way", then she ghosts me, I don'y sweat it, then I run into her on the street, she starts small talk, I'm polite, 2 hours later she blocks me.
Then another one grinds with me on the danceflooor, we make out and I kiss her neck, then once the club's closed I try to game her and she's acting like I owe her money, all hostile, like "you don't stop asking questions ugh" and she goes home with a local bartener she knows, giving me glances like "you see I'm not going home with you"
Then another bitch, pretty similar experience.
What the fuck is this
Read MoreAre shit tests some self sabotage kinda thing sometimes (especially if they start increasing after sex) rather than some way to see what kind of man you are? Meaning, she starts acting like an asshole or a brat or tries to create drama because she's scared shitless of being vulnerable and her instinctive response is trying to push you away. My hypothesis is that in these sort of cases, taking it as a shit test and pulling back or flip the script to make her submit/apologize might buy you some time because you make her panties wet for the moment, but this doesn't change the fact that she's scared and doesn't trust you. You're welcome to discuss.
@mattyanon if she likes you and you can't plate her as you want, your frame ain't strong enough. That's all there is to it. If you fall in love with her and let her get comfortable or don't dump her when she starts getting comfortable the yeah she'll drag you down with her bullshit, but you don't need to allow her to get to that point.
@Portobello3610 BPDs are not nice people, they are broken damaged destructive people best avoided before they land you in jail.
@deeplydisturbed I've plated/FWBd BPDs before and had no problem with it, they can be nice people. You just gotta know what she is and never let her jeopardize your happiness.
@pfeilmacher you never met her in person because she refused to or because it was a long distance thing?
@deeplydisturbed I don't see it like that. First off, I'm not going into a relationship with the intention of being a dick, I'm hinting that I might be what she's looking for just so I can see if she can be what I'm looking for, which (who knows?) she might be. Gues what would happen if I took seriously her "talking to you bc I'm looking for a bf" claims. Sexual strategy is amoral, and one of the two has to be less invested than the other. I prefer it to be me.
