I'm 26, I was born with a very small skeletal frame (my wrists are less 6 inches around). Most of my life I weighed 110 lbs at 5'7. I've been hitting the gym HARD for 3 years, 5 days a week. Calorie surplus, enough protein, everything. Now, most of my newbie gains are gone. I've gained like 70 lbs and I still don't look like I lift. My biceps are still under 14 inches. Most people that I've met at the gym get to my size in 6 months. It's humilliating.
My background is in Biology and I remember reading a study in college where they got like 100 new lifters and put them on a 3 month training program while monitoring their nutrition. Some lifters gained 5 lbs, some gained 30. My point being that genetics vary wildly and unfortunately I was just dealt a bad hand. I just happen to be on the far low end of responders.
I don't want to be small forever. Life is unfair but that doesn't mean we have to like it. Should I start taking steroids ? Should I get silicone implants ? Inject synthol ? I'd like to know what you people think.
If you think you've got bad genetics you've got two options going forward. Well, four, at least.
First, suck start a loaded pistol and take yourself permanently out of the game of life, preventing you from imparting those bad genes to future generations. While I acknowledge that the option exists, that shouldn't be mistaken for any sort of endorsement of suicide on my part. Second, you can do what guys like @58to62LegLengthening did by traveling to Turkey, or some other country, and drop some serious dough undergoing lengthy cosmetic surgery that addresses the aesthetic deficiencies genetics presumably burdened you with, leaving you to spend months recovering from the operations, before telling everyone who is otherwise uninterested in knowing that you're an aesthetically better person, despite your obvious deep psychological issues only getting worse.
Third option, you give up on procreating by getting a vasectomy enabling you to sport f#$% from here onward, then ask male relatives who you feel have genetics you lack if they'd be willing to donate their nut butter to be used at some time in the future for your children. Fourth option, do what men have chosen for thousands of years, invest the time and energy to seriously evaluate yourself, identify your various limitations and develop a plan to engage them, so as to transform yourself as close as you can into the man you otherwise envision you could one day be. Lifting weights and exercising is a good start, but comparing yourself to others is not helping.
While you mull those options over, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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