Past few days, I’ve been suffering. Been doing cold approach at college and so far, every girl acted super awkward and not social at all. Everyone around here just walks to class and theres tons of people who simply don’t talk to each other. I feel terrible. I’m not good looking enough for tinder or the bars and clubs because that’s for the high-status chads which I am not. I’m a nobody, a guy with 0 friends outside my roommates. I talked to a chick earlier who was helping me with homework and she agreed that the school is very antisocial but she did say that she isn’t very good with talking to people she doesn’t know. I guess girls here aren’t used to being cold approached, that’s why they act so weird. It’s tough.
As I was saying, I’ve been an outcast my whole life and I just take things personally when people don’t like me. I feel unwanted almost everywhere I go. When I go to bars alone, everyone already knows each other and girls talk amongst themselves and I’m way to pussy to approach. I don’t know how to approach chicks in a bar, either. I have no friends and no life outside of school. Maybe I should join a club or something.
I feel like if girls found me attractive, they would be a lot more receptive to my approaches. Maybe I’m not talking to them for long enough. I don’t get it.
The reason why I joined this forum was because I want to be a better person. I gave up video games and I haven’t masturbated to porn in 1 month. I’m devoting a lot of time to try to socialize but I’m always being shut down. I’m scared it’s going to be this way forever and I’m simply not worthy of people.
I feel unwanted, unloved, and not cared for. What should I do?
Not everything that goes wrong in your life will be solely your fault. While there will definitely be failures due to your own ignorance or laziness that will hamper you, there will also be many others due to sabotage as well. In this instance, day game in the morning hours on a college campus will usually fail because like any aspiring productive young adult, the girls you're looking to engage have someplace to be, things to do, and if you want to be seen as a male worth a females time and attention so must you. Keep in mind that the females on college campuses today aren't studying subjects that will make them either better wives to men or mothers to their future children. Their schooling is intended to make them compliant worker drones in our societies degenerating corporate-industrial machine, same as you. So don't take this as you should stop cold approaching, but maybe relax about being overly concerned with the negative outcomes. Females are to compliment your life's journey, not be the thing that defines it. If you don't have anywhere to be in the mornings, take up gardening, hit the gym, join a jogging or running club to help you get in shape or develop your physique.
In time you'll find love, but for now the best we can do is recommend that you seek out affection. A lot of guys can advise you on banging sluts, others can suggest strategies on hiring a whore, but for your situation I'd suggest you get yourself a small pet. It's vastly more rewarding, costs significantly less, and doesn't require condoms or birth control. So start with something easy to care for that won't take up too much space in your home or dramatically impact your budget. Maybe a hamster to as its habitat is easy to maintain and should live for a good few years. When you finish college, you can also graduate to a larger animal. Maybe a rabbit, a cat, or a small dog.
As for your dealings with women, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.Read More
Tonight I showed up to a frat house and they made me go downstairs and they did a cop-style interview with a light in my face and everything. I was chill as fuck because I didn’t care if I got in or anything, I’ll just go to another if its a big deal.
Anyways, they asked me some dumb questions and some solid ones. One was “what will you bring to the frat” and I answered “chicks from my campus”. They seemed to dig that answer. But some were fucked like “if you were between your mom with your dick out and her pussy wide open and your dad right behind you with his dick out which side are you going”. Dumb question, didn’t care and said I’d fuck my mom a bit and they started getting all weird with me but again, I didn’t care and laughed anyway. It felt good because I didn’t let these schmucks break my frame. Terrible answer but the question is dumb so I was getting a bad reaction either way. Another one was “you have to fuck 2 chicks, both of their ages have to add up to 21, what are their ages” and I said 21 and 0 because again, didn’t fucking care. I already knew they wanted me to break and go “NO NO NO, WAIT WAIT WAIT!!!!” But I wouldn’t let them have their fun.
Then they asked me this one lame ass question which was “so…uh…. You’re at the club… and you see a 10 and you’re drunk and confident to talk to her… what do you say?” And I gave them a funny look and smiled saying “you guys need BOOZE to talk to women?” And the whole place when fucking silent. Then I told them I’d go up, say hi and if she doesn’t like me then onto the next. I went to the bar right afterward and talked to some chads in line and told them everything I said and they told me I ought to be leader after that interview haha. But to be completely honest, I don’t like those frat guys. I don’t like how they treat people and I especially don’t respect them when they act all hard when they’re shoulder to shoulder. Fucking lame in my honest opinion but they do fuck more women (or at least take advantage of, given they can’t talk to new chicks without booze).
Went to the bar, took a few shots of whiskey and jammed to the tunes, noticed more iois of a FEW women looking at me when I walk by them. If anything, I try gaming these chicks instead, the bar was filled with dorks and only a handful of chads. Close quarters bar, loud as fuck and crowded.
I do remember reading the sidebar about job interviews, but I wanted to know if this made it different since they’re asking questions MEANT to fuck with me.
I've got none to offer. I looked at the various collegiate fraternities affiliated with my college, in my home state, and nationally, but never did anything other than check out a few of their events at various chapters before completely dismissing them as a waste of time and energy to be involved with. The collegiate chapters on party campuses in particular were only concerned with keeping their membership up, parties, and not much else. They had zero sincere real concern with member academic performance, personal or professional development. You're a moron if you're going to college or university to party.
Instead, I made time to visit the alumni chapters in my home state during the summer recesses to see what they did. In that effort, my observations were rewarded. At the time, they had a few older members working on passion projects recruiting recent grads to just give them analysis and feedback on how to best support collegiate chapters to be more than party hubs. The summer I graduated, I joined two fraternities who complimented each other very well along with a few professional associations.
Consider getting your hands on either Aaron Clarey's "Worthless: The Indispensable Guide to Choosing the Right Major". or Aaron Clarey's other book The Black Man's Guide Out of Poverty: For Black Men Who Demand Better. The books are dirt cheap compared to any textbook you'll be getting and will provide you with more value in return. I would suggest you review his blog which links to his youtube channel to get a feel for his views on money, dating, relationships, education, and work to see if they're aligned with what you aspire for yourself. You shouldn't have any problems finding his book on piratebay, or similar sites if you've already found you'd like to read his book, but find money is an issue for you. You can even ask him and he may send you a copy for free, depending on his mood.Read More