@aym4ne

Found her secretly chasing richer guys - should I keep her around for sex or cut her off?

Been seeing this girl casually for a while now. Sex is fire, energy is good when we're together, but recently I found her Threads account (she assumed I didn't have one). She's out there posting thirst traps, flirting with bikers, and clearly chasing guys who look richer or more flashy.

I haven't confronted her. She has no idea I saw any of it.

I never planned anything serious with her - no long-term intentions, just casual. But now I'm wondering:

Should I keep her around strictly for sex and detach emotionally, or just cut her off and move on?

Personally, I'm more inclined toward keeping her around for casual sex, as it'd require lots of energy to find someone else, since I'm not interested in building a long lasting relationship anyway, but a part of me feels disrespected.

How would you handle this? Looking for straight takes.

There's no take to really have on this as it's a non-issue. You're not her husband and she's not your wife. The only thing that's changed since you two started banging is that you've confirmed she's pursuing other guys which means she lacks the traits indicative of loyalty.

Which is just as well, as you weren't looking for a chaste virgin to take as a wife and she wasn't looking for her prince charming to sweep her off her feet. If you enjoy the lay and she's otherwise pleasant company, add her to an inventory of plates, and bang away. However, if you're humoring exclusivity of any kind, you should definitely look elsewhere.

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