When I see a cute girl and feel the urge to approach (I have zero approach anxiety thanks to approaching hundreds of women), I end up cockblocking myself.
Internally, I think I’m not man enough. It’s not about her. It’s not about that one person. I know I can pull the woman I’m approaching—hell, I’m already flirting, having fun, and staying outcome-independent—but I don’t ask for her number, and I don’t even want to have sex with her. It feels like too much hassle.
It’s not that she’s out of my league or that she’s so beautiful she’ll reject me. Who cares? What really bothers me is that I know my potential. I was once in incredible shape—mentally, physically, and spiritually strong; resilient and disciplined. I think this goes deeper than women. I want that man back. I need to work on this.
What’s your opinion on this? I’m not looking for advice like “approach more” or “fuck more.” I want to keep this philosophical. Is there anything I’m missing in the bigger picture?
Ps. I had a lot of partners in the past, I know what woman is, what sex is, what abundance mentality, spinning plates, oneitis is etc. These are not my problem.
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