@Kloi The thing is, if we start fighting, nobody will split us up and we wont stop until someone really gets hurt. I am talking proper hurt. Last time we stopped with ripped shirts and bloody nose and mouth. He said that he didnt't give his best as I am his older brother. Still, not a good experience.
@kimsinrd sound difficult. If he has a personality disorder, he's pretty much done for, and there's nothing you can do.
Seen from his perspective, what else is there? Being a nobody, a loser? At least in his world he's Numero uno.
In those cases, a shock is a prerequisite for change. He might need to fuck up his life first.
@Kloi I disagree with the first part because I agree with the second part.
No matter how hard you beat someone, if they are not willing to change, they won't. My brother says that himself and gives example if how his other friends were beaten badly by their parents because they drink or smoke. The end result is that they still continue to do so.
The second part is very true. Nobody can help a person that is not looking and willing to get help and advice.
How do I introduce my brother to TRP? He has a "roadman" (UK slang. someone, usually a young man, who spends a lot of time on the streets and may use or sell drugs, or cause trouble: He thinks he's some kind of roadman.) mindset. He is not into drugs, but he likes to show off, get into fights and confrontation with people. We live in a bit of a dangerous area where knife crime is common. My mindset is to not get into arguments that are pointless unless I win something out of it. He is all about pride and show off. He chases girls, buys gold jewelry with his student financa, car, etc and doesn't think longterm. He likes to chase nightlife and doesn't (in my opinion) think rationally. In fact, if he wasn't my brother, I wouldn't talk to him because I don't keep such people next to me. We both are in our early 20s and I am the older one. I like to think long-term, save, invest, study, research and only when I have free time to spend time with girls. But at this stage, girls are not my priority, because is all about building myself both intelectually and physically (gotta admit I have been slacking off on the physical development part). His mindset is "we only live once". Any advice?
I like to blame my dad too for not spending too much time with us and building a good bond and mindset, but since I discovered TRP and experiencing a medical suffering of a loved one, my mindset has been changed and I often get told that I think like a proper grown up. How do I make my brother "be on the same page as me" and keep him away from trouble?
Because right now, I have just given up on home. This is due to the fact that he is willing to stay ignorant and don't listen to his older brother. He seems me probably as a "pussy" that doesn't want to live life, but this is far from the truth.Read More
@arakouzo I hope that is the case. I guess until I "like myself" and see myself as "the version I want to be", I have to initiate conversations with otfer people, take the first step while doing the "simple" and "basic" things like go gym, good diet and work on my own shit to make "bank"? In a way my ego prevents me from taking the first step. "Why should you be the one to say hello", "why should you be the one to be polite", "why should you be the one to take things and de-escalate", and the list goes on. But I guess I have to. In a way some bosses and succesful people are very strategic with their energy and relations to people. I assume obviously now they don't initiate the first step, but I guess they used to when they were "level 0". I guess life is like a game? Start from level 0 and be the one to eat shit for some time, initiate conversations with people, try to be interested in them while working on my own shit?! Maybe simple, maybe not but I have a friend that does this. Hes got nice body, wife and a kid. Man works full time, goes to Uni (my class) and takes care of his family. So I guess is possible and is all about time and energy. Well maybe need to fix energy first and the only way I believe is with the positive feedback loop. Go gym, diet and good sleep. I cannot wait for energy to come in order to do these activities. Gotta start from somewhere, but is not easy and very unlikely to end up in a some good situation. Well maybe I gotta try and see. Time will tell. Is good to write my thoughs and get rid of the heavy thoughts in my mind.Read More
I don't know if is a sad truth but reality is that the parreto distribution is everywhere.
"according to the numbers XRUS put together, the top 1% of OnlyFans content creators account for 33% of all the money. Extrapolating that out further, the top 10% of all the accounts on OnlyFans make 73% of the money, with the site positing it’s easier for people who already have popular social media platforms elsewhere to make the transition to paid subscribers than for people to start at 0 and build an entire following."
As a man in eary 20s, I am having hard time understanding how nature works (money) and blows my mind that the parreto distribution cannot be espaced. Makes me uncomfortable to know that I will soon finish final year of University and I have no idea what I am going to do. A regular job for the rest of my life, a regular life tryin to meet ends meet. How did I come to this conclusion?
Recently I started "working" (meeting their demands and requests) for some well off people financially. I see their mindset and the life they live. One day are in London, the next in Syndey, LA, Ibiza and are all over the world. Some pay like £4k pcm to live in the heart of the city and use it as their "storage" place for their belongings. Some are born into that lifestyle, some have worked hard but the truth is that they have "made it" and can afford to pay for what most people do themselves. My brain just doesn't get how money and social dynamics work when it comes to financial success. As the quote goes "you are the avarage of the five people you spend the most time with". Well I got 0. No routine, no specific purpose. I am very conscious about personality types and stuff that JBP talks about, but I don't know... I don't have the consistency even to go gym, read and improve myself. The crazy thing is that I am good with tech and I see some business ideas that make bank and I am capable in terms of coding) to achieve the same thing. But we all know that is not all about a single factor (for example is not just about code. it involves a lot of marketing and other factors). I just feel like I need to write this somewhere so I put it here with 0 expectations, since I don't have much expectations from anyone (only in times of desperation there is some hope but never an expectaton).
I like that TRP focuses on women and lifestyle. Feels good to read about people having success in life. I don't chase women because I don't like myself yet. Why would I chase women when if I was a girl wouldn't date myself? I am not "there" yet so I focus on improving myself (or I focus on the fact that I am not enough yet because I am lazy and inconsistent). And again I don't bother much because I see some people work so hard (day and night two shifts very skilled people) and they still fail to meet ends meet. It is a hard reality of life, but that is life and is easy to say "it is what it is" but dealing with shit is not easy. Is not supposed to be easy but linking back to my original point, there is the parreto distribution in everything and becoming the top 10% in a first world country where there is a lot of competition, opportunity and high cost of living is hard.
Another thing I was surprised about today is that I order food today from a respected high end resturant and literaly the owner delivered the door to my house. I am trying to understand psycologically and in terms of behaviour what seperates these people apart from the 90% of the population and puts them in the top 10%. IQ, orderliness, being disagreeable, good communication skill? I know people that have made it in different ways (mainly because I have worked for them and with them). Some slept in their cars for 4 years, saved and invested in a restaurant, some brought cheap construction worked and started their construction company, some started a platform for hospitality management with their tech skills and became part of the top 50 hospitaliy management property companies, some just work regular 9-5 but from remote and are well paid and got their finances sorted. In a way actually it makes me lose hope as an "immigrant" that moved to the UK 8 years ago. Finishing Uni soon and will see what life has to offer (or take away).
Yh just a late night thoughts posting here. If you disagree, its calm. Stay safe.Read More
How do you maintain connections with people from another country? How do you keep doors open? Any book recommendations on that? I though that "why should I be the one to initiate conversation" on holidays and spacial occations, but it comes a time where you need someone and you have nobody to rely on. In this case is urgent travel to home country and I realised that I had nobody I can trust. I want to relate this to being "alpha". Do alpha mals get greeted and remembered at special occations and holidays? Do they have resources and connections even at remote locations?