This is a big topic and I tend to lean the way you do PK both on raising daughters and on the best odds being in locking down a woman before she gets spoiled by the CC.
My tweaks would be -don't actually marry. Treat her with the seriousness of a wife but you don't need to sign a contract with the state. This will reduce your pain if it goes wrong. Don't look at marriage like previous generations did -as a permanent institution. The stats speak for themselves. Marriage does not work for most people these days. 75% of women have not even entered it before their good child bearing years are gone. Even if they do enter it are they even succeeding in making themselves or their men happy? That 25% who you see married before 30 are just the ones who walked in the gate. The number that actually do good are much less. Walking in the gate is the start not the destination! Are they even raising families?
A wise man does not consider himself an exception until he has made himself an exception. Live with her for a couple of decades and if she is still lovely and you would never swap her out and she has given you good children, then you are an exception. I still wouldn't formally marry her but you will be likely to be an exception. Until then expect that failure in a union with a modern woman is a quite likely outcome, so plan for it as a contingency.
What is marriage anyway? First the church got in on marriage, then the state did. The reality is that marriage is actually just a union between two people and between two families. It never needed the state or the church. They are just nosy controlling entities. We have an unusual view of marriage in the west. We made it legal and sacred. Take islam. In Islam marriage is not sacred. Marriage is secular. A man and a woman are married in sharia law if they declare themselves married before 2 witnesses. In England in the early and mid medieval times before the church poked its nose in, a couple were married if they declared it so before even one witness. The church didn't like it because it gave Chads too much fun at parties. In most of sub saharan Africa marriage is only complete when cattle (or money in lieu) have been given to the girl's male relatives to compensate the family for the loss of her labour. Many African families live somewhere on a spectrum between law and tradition. For many a marriage is only real if its traditional and they have no interest in the legal document. For others, even if it is real if its legal its not complete till the bride price has been paid. When I married an african girl from a traditional family, they were only interested in the bride price -7 cows- being paid and in my then ceremonially killing a white bull in front of hundreds of people who then had a party. We never went to the law. "The white man made his law so he could call us all bastards but they are all bastards because they are only have paper that they call marriage" When things later went wrong with the family after her death, the local chief intervened on my side "He killed the bull and you all ate it, none of her property is your business"
Scrap legal marriage and consider forming a loyal union of intent with a woman for the purpose of having children. This is a more modern solution.
I would also like to say in response to Overkill-Engine's good point “Yup. Women's desire is about as amoral as a dog in heat. The proof of this is in how many end up single moms after spreading their legs for men that were clearly not going to stick around for any woman.” We need to understand that agency is not essential to the female condition. Women don't have the same inner need that men have to make choices. They can often just drift with the flow and feel no inner disquiet in doing so.
Imagine if women did need agency. They would fall to pieces when their lives lacked agency. All of history would have been different. Women are drawn to what they see as strength to protect them from needing agency because the reality is that once they have a baby in their belly or their arms they actually have minimal agency unless they kill that baby. They are going to be tending that baby till it is independent. If their man is killed or runs off, they will be OK if they go to another, even if they are taken as a captive in war. They can go with the flow, seeking strength as security.
There is a reason why girls were historically protected from men until a suitable suitor arrived -they can't always help themselves. There is also a reason why women who exercise self control and chastity are praised above all others -because these are hard things for women to do. Similarly there is a reason why people practise "game" Women will go with the flow when the conditions are right. Things do sometimes "just happen" to women.
When society protects women from their weaknesses, then their ability to go with the flow becomes a strength but as it is, women are helpless. Women moan a lot and for a century governments have heeded their moans and given them rights and agency on a level never previously seen in the history of humanity. Women are now use those rights to take photographs of their arses and tick them on tinder. They do not help themselves or society with all this agency because they do not actually need it. It is also no coincidence that they are deeply unsatisfied these days. They are using agency to go with the flow to the worst places.
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