Been dating this girl about 6 weeks. Been out 6 times, smashed date #2 and each time since, but I've slipped up a bit with my game here and there, and sure enough, I could tell when she started being a lil more distant. Such is life with being a noob and not having a lot of experience. While I've already accepted she's gonna be gone eventually we still talk every day.

I asked her out for this weekend and got some BS about how family is in town and she "doesn't know when they'll be leaving". Lmfao. So, obviously she's holding out for some other guy that she likes more. Her last message was: "If it's ok, I'll let you know Friday".

Well, quite frankly it's not ok because I'm not trying to be the fucking backup. But I was busy the past couple weekends and I legit have nothing else going on this weekend. So, guaranteed sex with a hot girl I know sounds pretty nice.

How should I respond to this without looking like Mr. available 24/7 with no better plans than to be some bitch's backup plan? Sadly that is the fucking reality right now, but I'm trying to ride this one out till the wheels fall off completely.

Good on you for getting laid… BUT:

1. You’re in dangerous oneitis territory and you need to fix this asap. if you aren’t seeing multiple women it’s always gonna end bad. that might seem like a scary daunting task considering your lack of exp but you just gotta do it. it’s like as necessary as hitting your protein goals for the gym.

2. She is definitely getting railed by Chad and you are definitely backup dick.

3. Talking every day = bad. hit her up to make plans and that’s about it.

4. You need a thriving social life - have some good friends around you that you can go out with. You need hobbies - a sport or some shit of that nature. You need the gym. You need other women too. Lastly you need your purpose - the grind whatever that may be. View your career as being a professional athlete in a sport - spend time improving your skills if you’ve got nothing else to do. Those are your primary lines of defense from being stuck in the predicament of being “Mr. Available 24/7 with no better plans to be some bitch’s backup plan”. Then your response would be more like “oh sorry I’ve been absolutely slammed w work and then me n the guys got a table to go see mau p; I’ve just been too hungover to respond my b”