It's excitement mixed with anxiety. Try meditation and control your arousal. It's a mind- dick connection. When you start to notice you're too aroused, do some deep breathing and focus on the present. Another way is to train your pelvic floor muscles with reverse kegels.
Don't apologize and then try again after a while. Tell her to suck you off until you get hard, then smash. It's your first time so who gives a shit.
Last, stop calling yourself an incel. It's a shitty self talk and cringe af.
Emotional Intelligence is a new age buzzword for social skills, pushed by pseudo psychologists.
It's almost exclusively used by lobotomes and redittards to hide the lack of real intelligence. Same goes for rizz/aura..
Because it's difficult to deliver it over text, unless she knows you act like that irl. Plus, I can sense your autism shine thru the screen. Next time just say "good girl".
For women, it's not abut the content, but the context.
Women communicate covertly, so it's important to get the hints.
This is common sense when you have skin in the game, but a newb on a spectrum can easily step on his own dick if he's not calibrating his game.
You don't use IOI's to be reactive, but to lead. So you take the lead. You make a move, see how she responds, then use that info to make another move.
Don't do closures, especially "in your face" dread. It's dumb af.
This is overt game aka anti game. Useless ego trip. Just delete on everything, don't even reply.
