The internet would have you believe all women are on dating apps guzzling Chad’s cum 24/7.
Women are receptive to being approached.
Second time
I didn't know it was the second time (or didn't happen to catch that part)
First time is a commitment Gambit usually, but second is game playing. Usually some ego involved on their end but not necessarily not commitment trapping.
I personally wouldn't bother then. You could tell her it's only ever going to be casual and then just let her reach out to you for every hangout going forward and put no effort in and ghost of she fails to put out on something she initiated
I just have a toxic mindset tbh.
I feel ~toxic~ brutal honesty is a good default setting to be on. Especially with yourself.
When it's a girl wanting a little song and dance, I enjoy providing a little romance but if it's like you said, a complete shut down of game. I'm out. I'll happily play but I'm not here to be played for a sucker.
There's a distinct lack of passion as you pointed out that separates the two.
There is a plate on the gym I go.
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I just don't know what to talk to her about but still I want to fuck her regardless.
A plate is a girl you’re already fucking that isn’t exclusive. If you’ve only asked her for the wi-fi password, she isn’t a plate.
Talk to her about how sweaty your taint gets after doing some squats, that’ll appeal to her desire to have your nuts squatted into her mouth when she does become a plate.
Sounds like you did well overall. Some girls simply have spots they don't like touched. Or your pacing could have been a bit too fast.
Pacing is odd because it's a mix of physical and mental escalation. My own pace is very fast and very sexual. The key to it is make it seem just like a part of who you are.
My first tip for the future. Always start a date with a big hug. Break that touch barrier immediately. Give her a good squeeze. Don't pussy out on that. Hug her like she's an old friend that you've really missed. This really sets the tone.
Second is sexualize the conversation. Compliment something about her appearance. Show her you're not shy. Issue commands for compliance. "Stand up for a minute. Lemme see your outfit". "Come sit next to me right here". Show me that tattoo on your lower back". Get her to submit and comply. This will show confidence and dominance which will give her the tingles.
The best way to escalate is to treat her like she's already yours. If she agreed to the date she either should be or she's in it for a free ride. That information is vital to continue.
Remember by escalating you are not trying your luck, you're giving her something good. Time attention and affection. These are things that women want and require. Not making a move is really the most shitty thing a guy can do on a date.
You've got this! Just keep pushing forward.
Read MoreThere is a plate on the gym I go. She is mid, not ugly but still not attractive either. She is an alt bitch with tattoo on her calves and red hair and goth-like. I just don't know what to talk to her about but still I want to fuck her regardless. I spoke to her once and that's for the gym Wifi password that she didn't know.
@Bozza I have more toxic mindset than you.. in fact corrosive.