@MidgetSpinner

I'm basically invisible to women at the moment, and not sure why.

I'll try to keep this brief, and if I'm breaking any posting rules then please let me know.

Putting game aside for one second - this is purely based on looks alone, or presence perhaps.

I am a good looking guy. I always have been. Had zero game during my late teens up to 21, and that's mostly due to isolating myself, but I've never not had female attention, even as a kid. As I am currently, not much has changed physically, I'm merely a little older at 36, but as men, thankfully we age like wine.

This not a day to day issue for me or something I even really think about often, but it's something I have been noticing lately and it's this: Whenever I'm out in public doing my thing, I've noticed that women basically do not look at me anymore. It is like I am invisible.

Contrast that with a couple of years back, or practically my whole life prior, it's like night and day. I don't really know why that is. I might rarely get a girl check me out, but it's very very rare lately.

I'm a guy who likes to look for signs of interest, and in fact I can't switch that off. I used to be very good at it, but if no one is sending me signals then what's the point lol. My only guesses as to why this is happening is either I look like shit and I'm indenial/blind to it, or I'm not projecting confidence. If it's neither of those things, then I am lost. Can anyone provide any insight?

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@MidgetSpinner

Are dating apps a problem now, or is it me?

Immediately, I will be honest and say I'm a little lazy with dating apps. I swipe right on everything, and then filter out the matches after the fact, but I don't believe it would matter even if I didn't - in fact, I'd probably have less matches.

Here's the issue: Basically all of my matches are with women I don't consider to be in my league. I don't have a distorted or warped view of myself, I know my worth and I know the kind of women I'm capable of getting, but for some reason it ain't happening on these apps anymore.

Back in the day (pre-covid), I approached these apps with the same laziness, and got wayyyyy more matches, and much better options too. What has changed? Because I'm pretty certain it isn't me, and I know I'm not the only one who's noticed this.

Edit: Could be because I'm a little older now, but I doubt it. More than likely it is because online dating has shifted more to social media platforms such as Instagram where attractive women can advertise themselves much more easily for very high value men, leaving all the lake monsters and decrepid single mothers for dating apps. Probably a lot more complex than that, or maybe it's that my face is not en vogue post-covid. Maybe they can detect that I'm not an esteemed, vaccinated soy lord. No idea, that's why I'm here.