4d ago The Hub
I agree for the early stages but disagree when it comes to warming them up for the close.
Initiative and pull are definitely the man work.
HOWEVER - for the heteroflex or spaghetti bisexuals, that middle period where the intentions are clear but you're not quite ready to move her back to your place is where your girl can be very effective.
Girls who create an air of "omg we're just having SO MUCH FUN" opens a nice wide door into the man saying "let's get the tab and keep this going".
My other one piece of unsolicited advice to the audience is - if she drove separately, bring them all back in one car. Lost a prime opportunity because she got cold feet at the last minute and went home.
5d ago The Hub
As a rule of thumb, don't let your girlfriend game a third. Women suck at gaming women. When two girls are used to being pursued, brother will switch roles.
It's best for you as the man to steer the interactions. Unless of course, you're into blue pill-esque slow and inefficient game. Then by all means, let the ladies handle it.
5d ago The Hub
Yes. You are being a coward.
Many guys opt for cowardice. It's a warm fuzzy blanket. Cowardice takes no effort creativity or accountability. Usually if you let this go unchecked it becomes a part of your identity. You will sabotage your friendships, potential relationships and your own happiness to confirm this identity. And honestly society despises a coward. It's much better to try and fail. You will receive much more grace that way.
I agree with the guys that you need a therapist. You also need an action plan. What is your current mission? Be specific. Start with your mission then develop actionable steps to take. This is the most important and live changing part of your journey away from cowardice.
1w ago The Hub
I'm just reading the fact that you stated that some dumbass girl that I turned down was somehow a great option.
I'm saying that I totally disagreed with that. She sucked and wasn't worth my time. End of story.
Now I'm sure that because you posted it in teh inturnetz it's probably something true. You're the Chaldliest Chad that's ever Chadded. And you only date rocket scientist supermodels with nobel prize trophies on the night stand that get knocked over in frantic bedroom escapades.
I think this is where I'm supposed to feel obligatory self loathing.... Its totally believable that almost everyone in the manosphere is a billionaire that only dates 10's and has 3 percent body fat and rock solid frame. I mean they wrote it, right?
I honestly don't care if your plates are brilliant or have the IQ of a baked potato. You date for your preferences.
I find it ultimately weird and feminine to play these larpy hypergamy games with other non hypergamous men. Young guys forget that hypergamy isn't hard wired into men.
I'm not going to go to my friends or brother and ask them "on a scale of 1 to 10, how submissive is your girlfriend? Or ask for his girlfriends accolades. At the end of the day these are grown men who can handle making their own decisions.
When talking about a girlfriend or plate, citing her career status and IQ along with other stats is odd and disingenuous. A guy only does this for validation from his pack. It's definitely not a leader mentality.
I can say that my guy friends only care if the girls I'm dating or fucking are making me happy. They don't ever ask me about her career and I don't need their approval before I do something with a woman.
I'm just a guy that goes for average women. Some are scorching some are a bit plain, but they all add some sort of value and joy into my life.
Read More1w ago The Hub
If she's not following your lead, You're either:
A. Not leading
Or
B. She doesn't like you.
Why would a guy date a girl that doesn't like them? This is a really dumb argument.
At the end of the day it's your dick. If you find dumb, useless, boring women appealing to you if they submit, by all means, throw yourself on that grenade.
The rest of us will stick to our standards you can have all the submissive retards you desire.
1w ago The Hub
Incredibly dumb and boring is not desirable to me.
Once again I stand by my assertation. You might not have enough experience or you might just attract/be attracted to shitty women.
Anyways, I tend to avoid nihilistic views on people. Is a sign of computer touching and consuming rage porn.
1w ago The Hub
I think you missed the point. When you date a lot more you'll understand that life isn't about the confirmation of alpha bro sayings.
You want her to serve, fine. Most women will serve and submit to a high value man. That's just nature.
Is she a high value woman?
A woman with no personality, no experiences, dumb, no passion and bland. Is super low quality.
I have to at least like the girl and she is required to keep up with the general conversations I'm having.
If your only requirements are a warm hole, a pretty face and the ability to submit. You're in for a very rocky and painful dating life going forward.
1w ago The Hub
This stuck with me. A few years ago I met this chick that was extremely beautiful. But alas, it was the chocolate Easter Bunny effect: she looked good on the outside.
On the inside was nothing. She was boring so I didn't pursue her.
Anyways this same woman was bitching because she didn't have "ownership". What she meant was that no one owned her and she desperately wanted a worthy Chad to claim her.
In this case, it was a girl that wanted so desperately to feel owned, that she would gladly take the description of second choice if it somehow correlated to being owned by a man she wanted.
She doesn't need a man she just wants to be owned by the right man.