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7 months ago The Public Square
Is masturbation (not to porn or anything, just pleasure) bad?
Contrary to what many might otherwise say, regardless whether it's done with the assistance of visual aids like pornography, or without, the main reason we masturbate is to get that endorphin release upon climax. It's both calming and relaxing to experience that release. That release is also what drives narcotic users to pursue getting high, as the narcotic provokes a massive release of endorphins.
Your masturbating may be one of the first signs that something stressful is occurring in your life and that you're asking any questions as to whether this is good or bad takes guts. Your instincts are telling you something and it's never good to doubt them as they're clearly serving you well here.
The thing is, ignoring the stressors in your life prompting you to masturbate, whatever they might be is not in yours, or anyone's, best long term interests. While its up to you to determine if this is a problem, I'm linking to a post I made around #NoNutNovember that shared how I keep track of masturbation that worked for me and may work to help you to better visualize the situation so you might recognize the problem.Read More
about a year ago The Public Square
I'm addicted to porn. I actually busted one off today. I've been trying NoFap (with the prospect of having sex with females) for a while, but I keep slipping up and then cowering off from females because I don't have the confidence to talk to them afterwards (although I get IOIs from females regardless of whether I've fapped or not). People have asked me what my purpose is, but I have no idea at 19 years of age and I'm very restless to find out, I jump from thing to thing not knowing what I ought to be doing, skipping obligations to find that high. Then I go back to porn, because I don't even know myself.
Here's something I posted on the NoFap tribe in the run up to #NoNutNovember you may find helpful.