Had a convo with a plate this week #fieldreport #opinion

Also finished Dread by Rian Stone this week.

There is a chapter where he points out all the requirements a woman should meet if she did something to shake the trust:

• humility
• initiative
• honesty
• patience
• ownership
• recompense

He also sum up this way:

In the hundreds of times I have given men this list to use in gauging their wives’ regret, remorse, or shame, in the thousands of times guys have reported on this in their field reports, and in every example I’ve seen growing up, I have yet to see a woman pass. Not one. The purpose of this isn’t to test her. It’s to test yourself. I found it was impossible to tell a guy his wife is a cheating whore and he needs to sort himself out. He has to have a path to follow, a way to figure it out for himself.

It feels my ego with juicy and sweet raspberry filling, knowing I'm guiding my sparring partner well enough for the last year.

There is one caveat to this action list, as he admitted himself, he has never seen it work.

One sample would never be enough to make a good observation, but I do some things different. They will make her or break her.

I teach her reality where society is not her friend.

• female friends want her to fail and be below them so they ask her to do things to discredit her,
• she is being gossiped about behind her back and being discredited, for things people know about her,
• men and women talk about her behind her back in a social circles,
• I gave her outlet: she should just trust her own family [hopefully she can],
• she has never talked disrespectfully about her father, but I have asked her to show me how much she really appreciated his sacrifice,
• I have asked her to put on her clean social media all party pictures and made profile public, when she was like why, I have asked is there anything inappropriate or shameful on them,
• I let her pay for the periods, where she can spend some time with me and talk to me,
• Other periods she is allowed to do the acts of service for me, and talk to me only during the sex,
• She will be absolved of monetary contributions once her friends will confirm that she was not afoul - here I say I believe she wasn't but she will need to prove it through her friends showing me respect [sucking on my dick]
• She can have a shot at whatever more I will allow with me, once her friends will confirm that she was not afoul, --The main theme here is, only her fiends can prove she is innocent, although I believe her all the way,
• There is expectation of her letting me know where she goes and who she hangs out with, although I tell her she has to go on the girls night out if she want to bring me fresh meat, and it is not a choice,
  • she is allowed to go and do whatever she wants anyway, because she will either show me trough her behavior who she is, or her social circle will do,
• I do occasional acts of service for her, things that improve also my experience later on: new/second hand bed, bedding; this doesn't follow the rule 2/3, but is never the less thoughtful and absolves her from feeling like slut;
• only I am allowed to buy alcohol, unless she invites her friends,
• I make sure she understands I created for her safe environment to make changes I have requested; although I have not put any time limit on it, it will run on my terms [paid for time is the best limitus I could come up with, to limit abuse],
• she can quit any time and take all the lessons as a benefit to her life, no regrets from me,
• "she can get any guy she wants, as long as she is honest, but I do not encourage it, since I like she wants to be my bitch" [that was only said at the early stages],
• sex is flowing, 2x times I have seen opportunity to say "if you do not feel like having sex it is ok to tell me, I will not judge you for it", then stopping and waiting for response, while eating apple pie -- starting to cry during sex - "can you cry more intense? it turns me on" - " I can't it feels too good" -- this is now the running joke

It is easy to do since I actually believe in it and have stayed fairly consistent with my frame no to confuse my sparing partner.

Rian's list generally relies on her actions only, there is not enough of what has always been the strongest driver for women behaving better. Shame and social circle judgment.

I think all the above have came to happen after the main event, at the time I didn't know the term or theory about it, but from what I remember it might have been that.

Above is the short term plan.

Long term plan is so far not on the horizon.

So far I have lacked radical disattachment from the case, on days or weeks I should have focus 100% on other stuff and it is on me.

I have overinvested on some other days. My focus should have been to get my stuff done.

Rian's book reminded my my first time reading RP forum and being so surprised that there are men out there that I share observations with. And that I'm not insane just because I didn't see any other dude doing it.

It is a good compendium.