This face seems very familiar.

@Eurm

Any advice on how I can clean my wound with the divorce of my parents?

Have a close circle of male friends. This is where men can get support from, ever since the hunter-gatherer's hunter group.

Invest in yourself, not in your relationship. This is probably the hardest, because for men love is naturally self-sacrificial. Use the divorce of your parents as a reminder. Women are attracted to a man that takes good carw of himself, and that's what keeps the attraction going.

@Typo-MAGAshiv agreed... this is the truth. Far better is to share with a good friend or mens group. They will never use it against you. Look.... you've shared this with some random dudes on an online forum and they're all 100% with you.

I wish I'd realised earlier that you shouldn't share vulnerabilities an self doubt with women partners. They are incapable of not using it for gaining power. It's just biology....women are physically weaker than men so they have to be more manipulative in an emotional sense in order to make up ther power deficit in a relationship.

Men can get a lot out of relationships with women. But there are limits.

@Eurm sharing that sort of vulnerability is rarely a good idea

It can be done (I have with my wife), but it's usually better not to (I wish I hadn't).

@Typo-MAGAshiv I think you’re completely correct. He was a truck driver and not often at home and I assume that was one of the reasons.

And because of him “thinking” it was a good friend it makes me a little skeptical with my friends too.

Do you think it would be reasonable to talk openly about this with my GF?

Maybe not directly about it tonight because of her ex. But just to make her aware it’s a sensitive area?

It is this again to beta? As you see I’m not a typical red pill guy

Thanks for all your input!

@Eurm learn from his mistakes. I'm not blaming him for what your mom did or absolving her, but usually unless the woman is just a hobag who can't keep her legs closed, and if the cheating happens only after years together, the man has made himself unattractive. This is usually through complacency and misguided attempts at pleasing the wife that actually backfire ("yes, dear" type shit). The bullshit conditioning and lies we've all been force-fed for the past 100+ years set most men, including your dad as well as my own, up for failure.

with his good friend.

Someone he thought was a good friend. Betrayal of that magnitude is unforgivable.

@Typo-MAGAshiv love it! Thanks, man. I just wrote a comment about my trust issues and it's stemming from that my mom cheated on my dad with his good friend.

I know it's me and I have to work on these issues. But I wonder how?

I appreciate your comment though because you're 100% right.

If she wants to cheat she will. I can't change that. But the fact that she talks openly about it makes me at ease.

Any advice on how I can clean my wound with the divorce of my parents?

My dad passed away lonely and went spiraling downwards after mom left

@RedPirate751 any tips on how can I clean out this wound? My dad got cheated on. My mom left with one of his better friends and it still itches me in my relationships