I agree on taking action for sure. It’s part of why I started posting on here to share my journey and get some accountability. I’m on a world trip right now and will be in 13 countries in two months. I’m more than halfway through and, I’ve been on a few dates during my trip and have been really putting myself out there. Have had my share of successes and failures. I got a few good stories to share on here, assuming I don’t get attacked by AFCs
To be fair I read TRP months after we broke up, so it had notting to do with that. These were my natural instincts I was following. Also it seems like most people are overlooking the fact she gave me an ultimatum to decide between pursuing my dream or her.
As far as getting calibrated, that’s why I’m on here sharing my stories. I’m seeking advice. Unfortunately so far I’m just getting a bunch of people trying to make me feel guilty for ending my relationship with someone I thought was toxic for my life
Go for the kiss:
On an international trip and have had a lot of layovers to listen to Rational male, mystery method and more. The first place I arrived, I decided to walk up to the hottest girl at the bar to break the ice. Im typically an AFC so this was very out of my comfort zone. She’s gives me some hesitation but I break through and we’re having a 20-30 min conversation. Turns out she was traveling as well. Tried to get her on the dance floor but she wouldn’t budge. Got her Instagram and didn’t think much of it.
Well fast forward a couple weeks and I happen to be traveling to her country, so I ask her for some tips. She’s super responsive and ask if we should me up - fuck yes. I meet up with her and she’s hotter than I even remember - a certified 10. Turns out she’s a model. I’m over the moon. We go out for dinner and have a great conversation. It starts raining so we can’t really venue change and she wasn’t much of a drinker. Therefore we ended up just talking and there was definitely a connection.
She had to take her bus home so I walk her to the stop and it was my moment to go for the kiss - I felt it, but I chumped out and kept it at a hug.
Next day I text her saying it was a great night and she’s all over it. Asked us to hang out again, so I’m thinking I’m for sure getting laid. This night she decides to have drinks and then out of nowhere she mentions her boyfriend…
As you can imagine I was taken back. Why the hell was she hanging out with me if she had a bf? So this changed my whole mindset. We ended the night and I didn’t get any. Honestly she was great to talk too and easy on the eyes but I was only in town for a few days so I felt like my night was kind of wasted.
Moral of the story, don’t be a bitch and go for the kiss. If I went for the kiss on the first night, she either would have pushed me off and said she had a bf and there would be no second meet. Or if there was a second meet she would know exactly what she was doing.
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@AlphaBetaCuck These behaviors you describe are definite relationship poison, and if literally everything else didn't get her to change what you consider intolerable behavior, it becomes necessary to make a conscious decision to either live with that forever, or to draw the line that you won't accept it and send the woman packing. AFTSOV's point of view isn't wrong, but he may be projecting some of his own experiences and wishes more deeply into your situation than they fit.
I can relate to the situation of being tied up in an LTR during what are explorative ages for your peers, then hitting the SMP again and finding everyone YEARS ahead of you in game and experience, and apparently all too used up and cynical from it to be worth trying to "catch up." You might never catch up even if you tried, but you might also come to see this is a blessing in disguise because what they became is not the path and goal you want for yourself anyway.
Your LTR match might come in a woman who like you spent her early 20s tied up in an LTR and also bypassed much of today's toxic SMP. Trying to fetch women back to "your mindset" from the exit ramp of the Cock Carousel will only make a man more frustrated and cynical.Read More
@AFTSOV She was very childish and used the silent treatment when she was unhappy. She would ignore me all day until I got mad. Also as I was pursuing my dream of being an entrepreneur she became very jealous of the time I spent on my work. She basically gave me and ultimatum to choose my dreams or her. She was a very jealous person and demanding of my time and I felt like I didn’t own my own day.
- She was emotionally unstable and brought negative emotions into my life.
- I wasn’t ready to settle for one vagina for the rest of my life. Not sure how else to say it, but just being blunt. I haven’t got all the fucking out of my system
My red pill journey:
In my early 20s I was an AFC and ended up getting into a LTR with a solid 9. We we’re together for a decade. She was a bit toxic and immature, but I never broke our relationship up because I was scared I never would get someone as good as her. However, I yearned to sleep with more women before I settled down, because I never had those glory years. Over the term of our relationship I grew substantially in my career and ended up finding escorts while traveling for work. Though it satisfied my thirst for more women, it made me feel like shit in the relationship. I justified it because there was no emotional attachment to the women and it was pure pleasure. I ended up breaking the relationship because she was emotionally unstable and truthfully I needed to experience other women before I settled down.
Coming out the relationship I knew I had 0 game, but this time I don’t want to be an AFC. Also, now that I’m single I don’t care to mess with escorts, because it’s not the same as real sex.
This is when my friend introduced me to The Rational Male and TRP. I’ve invested in myself physically, I’m well off financially, but my game is a work in progress.
I’ve been listening to a ton of books around TRP and it’s really changing my vision. I grew up raised by women and it’s clear why I was an AFC in my early years.
I’m sharing this post as I want some accountability as I’m on my journey. I want to share my successes and failures with this community as I grow. I need a community to call me out when I’m being a beta bitch, because the reality is that I have a long way to go.Read More