Dating two friends. How to fix fuckup?
I had been dating two girls for 3/4 months respectively. They became friends 1 month in as we all train at the same gym together and they were both around me at times. No exclusivity with either, although I wasn't exactly open about who I was sleeping with. The problem began two weeks ago when they hung out outside of the gym and told eachother everything, the next day they both broke it off. They have been orbiting me the past few weeks in the gym coming in the exact same times, TOGETHER. I was getting more serious with one of them and the other one got jealous and decides to ruin it.
I have been no contact with both for two weeks, they both regularly look my way and I give a simple smile and move on. Will they reach out at some point? I donm't give a fuck if one does but the other I am more interested in.
What's the solution? Remain no contact, go by my business and if they reach out ask to meet up?
update - Approached the one I like in the gym, she maintained that she is completely done because of the lack of trust. I said that I respect that and left it at that. This isn't recoverable aye?
This is a non-issue. You did nothing wrong, they're just idiots. Those two made some delusional resolution to feminist solidarity. As they see you with other females, they'll start acting like kids jealous someone's enjoying their old toy, and will feel themselves compelled to take corrective action to get back into your life. If they treat you well, I don't see why you shouldn't grow your inventory of plates by two more.
In the long run, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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