For further context:

I can see a girl and tell she’s loose but now instead of defaulting to romantic idealism I try to use it as an opportunity to ‘perform’. Because that’s how women select. Not for loves sake but based on performance.

And it feels good to recognize and change that dynamic. It’s not easy to keep romanticism back however, and if it’s natural to my psyche it must have some sort of purpose… and I don’t know where to redirect it.

It’s far better to be performance based and practical. (And I really do mean that!) I want to transition into that performance based mental point of origin but I’m afraid for my idealistic nature. I hope that helps.

Do you all have any examples of men’s idealistic love buffering a woman’s opportunistic love?

I’m beginning to expect women’s opportunism in my life and pull my emotions out of the disappointment. It’s not easy because I’m a romantic…

Is this healthy? How do you do that? I don’t like being a romantic but I’m designed to be an idealist (I have no choice).I know I’ve got to rebuild myself somehow.

@Typo-MAGAshiv thank you for sharing your perspective

What did it feel like for you all when you first started successfully spinning plates? And did your SMV greatly impact your ability to spin plates? Or were you able to leverage game to do so?

I want to return to spinning plates but I feel like I’m shooting too high above my current smv because I’m never getting matched or replied to online. IRL, I also don’t like to take ppl out/kick it cause my money isn’t where it needs to be. However Ik, I can leverage game against my deficiencies. I love cold approach but I think a whole lot about the backend and following up. I’m not here to make excuses but that’s where I’m at right now… I have no problem with waiting, but I honestly just need to bust a fucking nut to be blunt with you all.

Would it be a stretch to say that women’s entire lives revolve around men while in men’s lives, women are a subset of our focus?

@ausplaya10

It's spinning plates or, odds are, getting divorce raped or ended up in a dead bedroom marriage. Old-style marriage forever is dead.

It's not bad, either. Getting the good part of the relationship, then exiting gracefully to go to the next.

Until u get there, use girls for practice. No big deal.

@Typo-MAGAshiv for context: I’m 6’5, Early twenties, in great shape, and I know I’m not ugly.

When I like girls that like me, It scares me because I don’t want to fallback into bluepill conditioning and scare her away or get disrespected

I saw a girl in the gym who’s 6-7 in the face and a solid 8 in the body. She’s relatively cute but she gives me IOI’s here and there.

I won’t approach because I’m scared. More so of dropping frame than disrespect.

I hate trying to unplug this part of me because once I give up monogamy as a goal in my mind, I don’t know what the other side feels like…

This part of game sucks…

TL;DR: I’m not ugly Saw a hot girl I don’t want to close the doors on monogamy I don’t want to not spin plates and experience the opposite either…

Is it even possible that the girl you want & the girl that wants you line up? Am I shooting too high to approach girls who are super hot?

Do any of you all have trouble connecting with other men? Recently I’ve been trying to acclimate myself to masculine modes of communication (teasing, ribbing, joking etc.) I know how to give it and receive it at times and it gives me a certain type of masculine fulfillment. I know this is how guys connect and How I’ll be able to find my tribe. Other times I am deficient in recognizing when a dude is playing or is a really being disrespectful. My goal is to maintain frame and be able to handle insults from guys and girls. I know I won’t be able to grow my SMV, self esteem or status unless I learn this.

@Tajouxtrp Of course! No problem