@crazystorypt2

Merry Christmas fellas! Just need some advice on a potential LTR i’m seeing today. I (19) have been talking to this girl for a bit over a month and she checks off most of my boxes. She’s submissive, thoughtful, and intelligent. We’ve went on a few dates already and I can tell she’s really feeling me (asked about being exclusive a few weeks ago). For Christmas she mentioned that she had gotten me a few things…since i’m actually into her i decided to get her a bouquet of flowers, chocolates, and a card. Now that I think of it, I might come off as beta if I give her all that without her even being my gf yet. I was thinking of scrapping the card and just giving her the flowers and chocolate. What do you guys think? Also thought of asking her to be my gf today (christmas day), should I hold off on it till after the new years or just go for it? I see her in 4 hours so let me know what you guys think!

Good lord, you need help. Get the "LTR" a Christmas card and give the flowers to your sister, mother, or grandmother.

In the meantime, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.

Merry Christmas fellas! Just need some advice on a potential LTR i’m seeing today. I (19) have been talking to this girl for a bit over a month and she checks off most of my boxes. She’s submissive, thoughtful, and intelligent. We’ve went on a few dates already and I can tell she’s really feeling me (asked about being exclusive a few weeks ago). For Christmas she mentioned that she had gotten me a few things…since i’m actually into her i decided to get her a bouquet of flowers, chocolates, and a card. Now that I think of it, I might come off as beta if I give her all that without her even being my gf yet. I was thinking of scrapping the card and just giving her the flowers and chocolate. What do you guys think? Also thought of asking her to be my gf today (christmas day), should I hold off on it till after the new years or just go for it? I see her in 4 hours so let me know what you guys think!

@crazystorypt2

Girl (21) hit me (19) up and expressed a lot of interest in me. Went out for coffee once and talked for hours after. She asked me what I wanted and I told her I’ll see where things go, she agreed. The next day she texts me and says she doesn’t think it will work out because she actually wants a relationship. Tbh I wanted a relationship too so I called her and we talked about it and realized we wanted the same thing. Fast forward a few weeks later, I’m on the phone with her and suggest we go out for tacos at this spot in the city, she agrees but then adds that she wants to go out as friends only. Now i’m confused because we aren’t in a relationship so what does this mean? She then says we vibe better as friends and would still want to go but as friends. Once we get off the phone, she texts me and says ‘we can totally still get tacos if your down!’. I’m a little upset about this because I actually liked her because she met all my criteria for a girl I would date, what should I do next? I haven’t replied to her text yet either. I would really appreciate any feedback.

When dealing with females, keep in mind, when they are interested in you they will remove, or overcome, any and all obstacles in their path to spending time with you. When they create obstacles to spending time with you, it is because you're not that interesting to them. In the time you two have been dating, this girl's gotten to know enough about you to know that she's not that interested in you. While disappointing, finding this out early tends to be best. I'd simply stop communicating with her and find someone else to date.

Consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.

Girl (21) hit me (19) up and expressed a lot of interest in me. Went out for coffee once and talked for hours after. She asked me what I wanted and I told her I’ll see where things go, she agreed. The next day she texts me and says she doesn’t think it will work out because she actually wants a relationship. Tbh I wanted a relationship too so I called her and we talked about it and realized we wanted the same thing. Fast forward a few weeks later, I’m on the phone with her and suggest we go out for tacos at this spot in the city, she agrees but then adds that she wants to go out as friends only. Now i’m confused because we aren’t in a relationship so what does this mean? She then says we vibe better as friends and would still want to go but as friends. Once we get off the phone, she texts me and says ‘we can totally still get tacos if your down!’. I’m a little upset about this because I actually liked her because she met all my criteria for a girl I would date, what should I do next? I haven’t replied to her text yet either. I would really appreciate any feedback.