So recently i have dealt with a situation that was a bit confusing to me.
Went on a date with a woman I met at an art gallery event to a rooftop patio for drinks.
Date went the standard way -> drinks, flirtation, escalated as we were leaving bar and ended up making out/fooling around in the elevator as well as to a park we went nearby.
I end the date because i had to go to another thing i had to do that night.
She texts me back saying she had a nice time, we chat a bit and set up another date in a few days.
Morning of the date she hits me up with standard BS excuse.
I say i understand things happen outside our control and leave it there.
She proceeds to double text later that night apologizing and asking to reschedule.
I entertain the conversation but dont ask for another meet up. She proceeds to text all the niceties and BS a woman would stating that the she missed me (weird after one date?) and asking me when I am leaving for my work trip
She asks when I am free to which I give a vague response. She pushes me harder for a response and I give her a day.
We text a few more days setting up the date and 2 days before the date she ghosts. I leave it there.
Obviously I am a bit confused as to why she would pursue so hard only to flake both times.
My thoughts: I should have close the night of the date, or asked her to simply come over instead of setting up another date (at no point had she mentioned she wanted a relationship). Guessing the second date set up gave too much boyfriend vibes?
In the unlikely scenario she reaches out I think my response would be something along the lines: "This date thing isn't working so well for us haha, just come over and bring something nice".
Thoughts >?
Study the book. While you handled the situation well enough, the texting sessions after she canceled you should've replied with, "Busy, can't talk now." If it continued, you then place her on block and move on with your life. As far as I can tell the time you've spent chatting with her since then was a waste of time better spent on other things.
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So ive been hanging out with my buddy his gf and one of her ridiculously good looking friends a few times.
Last weekend we went to a bar with some folk and ended up going to an afterparty afterwards. At this place everyone was pretty much sitting around the coffee table in the living room doing lines and getting fucked up. As the night progressed we were flirting and teasing and out of the blue she just blurts out "hey X do you want me to blow you?" (this was in front of everyone as we were all around the coffee table)
Not going to lie, it caught me offguard, and all i could muster to reply was "only if you make me finish".
We ended up going out on the balcony for a smoke and only ended up making out after which we went home (it was like 6 in the morning by now). I do feel i should've been able to get more out of this, but honestly not sure how I could have handled it differently.
My thought was I should have tried to pull her in the only washroom in the condo, but given that it seemed to always be 2 or 3 people in there at a time maybe it would've been bad manners to the other people. Should i have just been a dick to everyone else and done it anyways?
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So went on a date with this girl who I thought was really attractive. Fit all the checkboxes and all that bs.
The date went really well I would say. I took her for a coffee ->then a walk -> then a bar. As the date progressed she was making hard eye contact and even asking me to make future plans. As we leave the bar she asks me to walk her home and we make out on the way there. We make out in front of her building and then i tell her good night.
After the date this was the text convo:
Me next morning: had a nice time last night, did you sleep alright? (we were both kind of passing out at the bar the night before)
Her: replies back at 5ish PM that day: had a nice time, slept well etc some bs about her day, asks me about my day and sleep
me: replies back at 12 am that night: some bs about my day, we should do it again sometime
her: replies back two days later: hearts my message, yeah definitely asks about my weekend
Me: replies the next day: just said some bs about my weekend and asked her about her weekend (i didn't really feel like asking her out after a two day response)
Her: radio silence...
Was this a fuck up in my text game after the date ? or something im missing during the date? Should i have went for the close that night?
I didn't even want to go on the date initially, she was the one that asked me out and I was surprised at how much I liked her at the end of the night.
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Read More@dopeblower teenager friends will often resort to the tactic of putting a friend down to make themselves look better. It stems from insecurity and people can sense that shit from a mjle away. You should always divert in these instances. A simple "what are you talking about, ypur mom already took care of me with a wink" would throw someone like that off balance pretty fast. If they keep pushing you can say something along the lines "why are you so interested in my dick bro, are you trying to tell us something". Flips the script instsntly and makes your friend look like a freak for pushing so hard. If the girls press you you can say something along the lines "are you trying to corrupt me ;)? play the innocent card in a sarcastic way. Basically always be sarcastic and hint at things without being overtly blunt about it.
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