@Vermillion-Rx How hard to be is a really tough one. Its great to see you publicly wrestling with the question because I think its one we all have to wrestle with privately and I think getting it right is very important both for the future of these fora and for the men we would like to help.

We all need good advice, We all mess up, we all benefit from encouragement.

We have to tell them where we think they are going wrong but we have to keep them engaged. I tend to think friendly is the way to go but some guys really come over badly in their posts and then you I sometimes feel "This guy could do with a shake up, he is blindly going the wrong way pissing men and women off and not helping himself"

I think so much depends on if the OP is doing a "humble brag post of great stupidity" or if he is just a guy who is not very good with people and communication who is genuinely looking for help. When it comes to the first case, we still don't want to actually drive most of these guys away, just straighten them out to keep traffic up.

Overall, I would say that not piling in too hard on some guys too soon would be a good plan. If we all go in hard on a guy who is acting very dumbly, it will probably just drive him away. I appreciate every case is unique though, we actually want some guys to leave but they are a very small minority.

Hitting the right tone in written speech is tricky. I can think of some times, I wish I had not been quite so clever in my reply and thought more about the reader.

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Vermillion-Rx

49m ago TheRedPill

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@First-light I agree

Typo-MAGAshiv

1d ago TheRedPill

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@Vermillion-Rx

hard on

heh

Vermillion-Rx

1d ago TheRedPill

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I'm just making this post because it's just an own my shit post.

I've been too hard on a lot of men. Not that I want to offend or make anyone feel bad about something but because I just figured being blunt is the fastest path to clarity but it really isn't always the best.

I didn't get a lot of direct feedback in my younger years and wish I had gotten mistakes called out sooner so I could fix my shit faster.

Everyone is going through something, even if experienced. Guys mess up. I still mess up, too. Could be a lot gentler or at least end a critique with a boost or rapport. Just trying to own it, we're all human

For anyone I've been this way on it's not personal but I'll do better

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Typo-MAGAshiv

1w ago TheRedPill

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@Vermillion-Rx

YOU are gay

Vermillion-Rx

1w ago TheRedPill

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@Typo-MAGAshiv

WHY are you GAY?!

I said no homo get off my dick

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Typo-MAGAshiv

1w ago TheRedPill

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@Vermillion-Rx

WHY are you GAY?!

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Vermillion-Rx

1w ago TheRedPill

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Running an AMA on r/TheRedPill

www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/s/FCHTIUYduM

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lurkerhasarisen

1w ago TheRedPill

Today the algorithm overlords sent me a video about the planet Saturn. Apparently Saturn is slowly absorbing its rings due to its immense gravitational pull. Towards the end the narrator said that eventually Saturn will become, “Just another gas giant… naked and ringless.” I commented:

So… your average Tinderella?

ba-dum-tsss

+ 1 101 fcks

Typo-MAGAshiv

2w ago TheRedPill

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@Hamzter so you're a lurker.

The phrase "active lurker" is essentially nonsense. I can tell English isn't your first language, so I was trying to see if you meant something by that odd turn of phrase.

Anyway...

As for the rest of that last reply, your mentality is shit. You seem to think in terms of "all or nothing", ie "either I bag a 10/10 supermodel tier virginal tradwife or I'm a total loser who settled!"

That's garbage.

Just do what you can, and try for what you can get.

There's a whole world full of women out there. Most of them aren't worth bothering with, but some are. Just become more attractive to increase your chances.