@gearhead

Is it bad if a girl I'm speaking to (she's pursuing a LTR with me), goes out drinking alcohol with multiple men without my presence?

For me it seems like a red flag... Just looking for some input.

A woman gets together with you, talks about wanting an LTR with an emphasis on the "R" part. Then later she commits acts which leave you to doubt the sincerity of her loyalty to you, or commitment to that relationship.

A woman who wants a relationship with a guy, doesn't do anything to risk that relationship. This isn't a good sign of things to come if you continue the "R" part of this LTR with any exclusivity. You know what to do, but if the sex is enjoyable and easily accessible, I honestly wouldn't blame you for just putting her on the back burner while working to develop your other relationships.

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