A girl I met yesterday in the club asked me to send her home. Made out with me in the car and gave me a blowjob. I didn't cum. Then I kept wanting to park my car and go up to her place, but she just didn't want me to do it. She said she wants me to miss her and remember her/be hard for me to forget her.
it's working. but wtf? im quite experienced and it's not normal for girls to able to just reject me when they already have gone so far in and are obviously loving the experience.
Side note: i have a main chick, and this girl knows it too. right now i know this girl's instagram but im not doing anything because im not too sure what to do. advice?
LTR has written notes in her phone about how she's dissatisfied with how I'm acting.
Examples are, me not thinking of her when shopping for my own clothes.
Me not helping her with her luggage (not intentional on my part)
Me not giving her money packets for Chinese New Year (I'm asian).
What is my course of action for this? She doesn't know I saw her phone.
furthermore, I kept rejecting her advances to get back together, even after she knew I cheated. Because i felt like I was not good enough for her anymore, and I broke her trust in me, meaning the relationship would be unsalvageable.
But the truth is, me not giving myself the chance and not giving her the chance to mend this relationship has been eating away at me for weeks. I haven't been able to sleep well and function properly. I still keep up with my work and fitness, but the loss of sleep is causing a lot of problems for me. I am not at peace with myself and my decision.
I thought I would be happy with a hot 10/10 girl, but I realized that I really care for my ex, and the relationship we've built has been so strong and meaningful, it would be extremely immature and naive of me to just throw it down the drain... right?
Read MoreFirst off, I really appreciate that there are people like you out here who are willing to respond and give advice to random strangers like me on the internet. I want to thank you for this, even though it's not much it really helps me a lot.
Regarding the question you asked, I think that I was addicted to the validation, but I've taken some time to think carefully and realized my mistakes. I am thinking to reconnect with my ex, as she was very keen on continuing the relationship a few weeks prior. At one point, she even waited for me outside my house for 2 nights, while I wasn't home. I'm not sure if it's is the right idea or not, but I would be filled with regret if I didn't at least try to get her back.
This is because she was with me through the toughest points of my life, and for me to bail right at the smallest distraction would make it impossible for me to live with myself.
To conclude, what would be the best way to approach this? I really prefer to meet her, and most likely try again, and if she rejects, at least I'll have peace knowing I tried my best.
Read More@Lone_Ranger if that’s true, what should i do? is there any way back? does it make sense?
@Typo-MAGAshiv yea I've come to realise that this decision is a cross that I will bear if I fuck it up. I already broke up with my LTR, that I actually truly love, because our lifestyles have become incompatible. I don't think it's oneitis, because I have the new girl who's a 10/10 basically like a model who I'm having sex with almost daily, but when I'm alone I always think of my ex.
What the hell is wrong with me
@Typo-MAGAshiv that's true.. it's just that I don't find her as interesting, pretty or attractive as before. She's 25 now and the other girl's 19/20 and the younger girl's personality and lifestyle suits mine more.
Need some help guys.
Would you guys pick:
- a girl who’s proven to love you and stuck with you through lowest points of your life, but you’re not attracted to.
- a girl who you’re attracted to (already fucked), but is still unvetted although they have shown positive qualities and potential.
- single life focused on myself
My main goal is to ensure I focus on my career and work to be the best, and I keep feeling that #1 might be optimal because the girl supports me, and I wouldn’t have to worry too much about girls/relationships etc. But i’m not attracted to her anymore, what do i do?
That depends on which you value more, the relationship with these women, or your professional success.
@Typo-MAGAshiv true. but the first woman is the one i’ve been in an LTR with for awhile. she does not want an open relationship, and honestly, i’m not sure if i can keep up with the guilt from cheating. should i just see both and continue cheating? the second girl is aware that i have a girlfriend already.
Need some help guys.
Would you guys pick:
a girl who’s proven to love you and stuck with you through lowest points of your life, but you’re not attracted to.
a girl who you’re attracted to (already fucked), but is still unvetted although they have shown positive qualities and potential.
My main goal is to ensure I focus on my career and work to be the best, and I keep feeling that #1 might be optimal because the girl supports me, and I wouldn’t have to worry too much about girls/relationships etc. But i’m not attracted to her anymore, what do i do?
