@AbusiveFather1

health insurance

i'll preface by saying that i'm new in the USA and i've been working dead-end minimum wage jobs since i got here. right now i work in a nursing home and i don't get health insurance through my employer: i pay 20 bucks to get the shittiest bottom-of-the-barrel insurance which at best gets me a yearly checkup and some ER coverage.

i have a spinal disc herniation and a couple of disc bulges. before i left my country, i consulted the doctors there, they saw the images of my spine and said i might need a surgery down the line, if the symptoms got worse. what do you know - they did. so now i'm thinking about ways of getting this procedure done; i'm told it'd take forever to get any treatment with my shitty insurance, nevermind something expensive like a surgery - even the nearest appointment is months away. any advice on getting proper healthcare for cheap?

So, if I've got it straight, you came to the US with an already damaged body. Some years later, those injuries have reached a point where you can no longer ignore them, without it severely impacting your health and quality of life going forward. Unfortunately, you can't engage those injuries due to the expense as the insurance you currently have is insufficient to do so and your income can't otherwise cover the bill.

Depending on what state you reside in and your age, you might be eligible for medicaid, or medicare, assistance. While I think someone mentioned marrying someone who's receiving employer provided insurance, US citizenship isn't as valuable as it used to be for foreigners, to say nothing of most western females being demonstrably un-marriageable due to being spiritually demoralized and/or spiritually lobotomized. However, with what information you've shared, I think your best option is re-training for another career field entirely. Ideally, one that has demand both in your home country, its neighbors, and other western advanced countries. Your body being in the wrecked condition it's in, and you being a resident alien, the best option I can recommend is that you consider a computer training certification program, before following up by finishing a college diploma in a related field, or one with comparable shared demand in the US and abroad.

If you need some options to start, then check out the organization "Per Scholas" as they've got locations all over the US. I suggested them last year to someone else, so there should be some people with more personal experience of them to share.

@TigerMatt414

why is it that women I date never want to do what I would like (like they don't want to commit or make any sacrifices to hang out, they only hang out when it's absolutely convenient for them etc.)? But i see other men in relationships where the woman fawns over them and will do anything for them with unwavering loyalty, in terms of fighting for the man's commitment and making sacrifices to always want to spend time with him etc.? I figure hypergamy probably plays a role to an extent but i see regular guys (guys that are not in some amazing physical shape etc.) that have this dynamic with their woman as well. My only thought is maybe there is some angle that these other regular guys have that has them in a lucky position. Like the woman they are with now got tired of running around the streets so has settled with them? (Also, apologies if this is not the correct place for question, I'm brand new here. Thank You)

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.