@fumbor It's hard to know how to help you without specifics - Do you lift? Do you dress well? Do you look like a guy that girls wanna fuck? How are you acting on the dates? Are you too friendly/giving non-sexual vibes?
You don't have to answer these, just think about them yourself and be objectively critical.
It sounds like maybe you're too thirsty, which is an instant turn off for girls. I know it's hard in your situation to not give a fuck and have abundance mentality, but maybe it's a fake it til you make it situation.
Cofee dates are fine. I use them to screen potential plates. I usually give them very little, but a little bit of light flirting, teasing and DHV can go a long way. The more you act like a guy who fucks, the more you will fuck. Hope that helps.
Also if your friends are fucking, they're a good group to be around and learn from. Do they know your struggles? If so, you can lean on them a bit, learn from them and maybe even go out with them to do some night game.
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