MikeLitoris

4 days ago  TheRedPill

@NewCambrianEra those are very creative ideas that still keep me in my frame-- I'll take that.

MikeLitoris

4 days ago  TheRedPill

@NewCambrianEra those are very creative ideas that still keep me in my frame-- I'll take that.

MikeLitoris

4 days ago  TheRedPill

@carnold03 thanks, I will look into the book you suggested. I have studied Corey Wayne and I know Doc Love was someone he bases his dating advice from. I'm not sure if his advice is the one that i want to build my foundation of dating practice off of though.

MikeLitoris

4 days ago  TheRedPill

@Zavss you are spot on my friend.

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carnold03

4 days ago  TheRedPill

@MikeLitoris

Hello,

I’m reaching out with a bit of an issue I’m currently dealing with, with my GF of 2 months now. I’ve only been turned on to the red pill for almost a year now, and with a lot going on in my life I haven’t had all the time I would like to read the sidebar books in order to get my PHD on the red pill. I’m mainly reaching out to those who are In a LTR or married for advise on this, however I’m all ears to anyone who has some constructive criticism that they can offer.

After upgrading this plate I broke frame twice with her regarding wanting access to her phone If I gave her access to mine, (serious mate guarding I know). Ever since I’ve been working on an abundance mindset and luckily she’s agreed to stay in the relationship regardless of my inadequacies. Fast forward to today, I got a new job in sales, have been making good money, and she works down the street from my house (about 15 minutes), and lives 30 minutes away. Up until last week I was texting her every day every few hours or so, and sometimes even more frequently than that.

She has been coming over on the weekends and sleeping over, I should include here that while we are together the sex is fantastic and we bang about 3-5 times sometimes staying up late until 12am-1am when we have to work the next day. Now she’s 29, and I’m 25 if that makes a difference in your opinion (yes I know she’s hitting the wall soon), however the reason for this intro is because lately I’ve noticed last two weeks I offered her to come over on a week day, and then on Friday to sleep over and she has reneged both times saying she’s tired and if it’s okay to come on Saturday instead.

I do have to take some responsibility and say that the reason I think her attractions dropped is because I haven’t been taking her out on dates due to starting this new job, and because I’ve been texting her too much during the week. (I’m of the belief that texting should be for logistic only and I screwed that up). SInce noticing this I’ve backed off from texting and she’s tried to argue with me about this last week, and last night. Saying things like she wants a boyfriend who’s going to give her attention and talk to her more often, the first time I told her I wasn’t going to argue with her and left it at that. Last night when she messaged me again regarding this she had cancelled our plans for going out on a date on Saturday, saying she might break up with me because of this which I still haven’t replied to.

I want to apply a soft next to this situation however I’m not sure If that’s the correct approach as this might be a comfort test. I do want to keep her around, however I don’t want to lose frame and lose her attraction towards me as I actually WANT more sex than what we’re having now, which is only one day a week. I think I should also include that she states that I’m always too busy for her by going to the gym all the time, working, or posting on social media and not checking in on her.

I also don’t want to directly ask her for more sex as I think that would be unattractive as hell.

Consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, save yourself a search and give this scribed link a gander.

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carnold03

4 days ago  TheRedPill

@Happy_123

Looking on advice on what I should do with my critical/complaining girlfriend. We've been together for 9 months and recently moved in together. Over the past couple of months I've noticed she criticises me. This has increased a lot recently.

For example I went to the shop to get us stuff to make dinner. And she first of all comments regarding the lack of sustainability of food I bought as its something that was imported from the other side of the world. Then she complains about the way I cut the ends off and throw it away. So I tell her there's a way to encourage someone to be sustainable and this is not it. She eventually storms off and sleeps in the spare bedroom for the night. Often times she'll pick the stupidest stuff to criticise me on, like that some piece of food I add to a dish doesn't suit the entire meal. Today she asked me "Do I think this working or not" She's also told me about some star sign bullshit and how it says we're not a good fit because she likes to argue and I don't

So to sum up:

  • She seems generally unhappy, probably in the relationship & in life in general.
  • She seems to have more criticisms than compliments for me

I care about her but I think she's being unnecessarily bitchy. Her argument would be that I'm not being proactive enough in something that she really cares about (sustainabilty). My argument is that overall I'm good with it and that you can't expect to change someone like that

Should I just let her go?

Yes, you should let her go. Hell, you never should've moved the whiny cunt into your home to begin with. You've significantly complicated matters for yourself by doing so, especially if she's been on your lease for thirty days or receiving mail at your address. Do yourself a favor, hard as this maybe, before you put her out stop having sex with her for the next two months so you know that she's not pregnant. Then get some boxes together to pack any of her things into and drop them off with her parents or her nearest relative or friend.

When that mess you've gotten yourself into is sorted, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, save yourself a search and give this scribed link a gander.

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NewCambrianEra

4 days ago  TheRedPill

@MikeLitoris I’d say either move in together or FaceTime her. That’s the trouble with having a girl/ partner. They want attention all the time as much as you want sex. Or more.

I’d give her gifts honestly. Something that she will always have to remind her of you. Like a bracelet or a necklace. Then call her randomly throughout the day to check on her. The point is NOT to wait for her to ask you, but to anticipate her moves in such a way that whenever she would feel a low in her day she gets a call from you and coasts off that until the next call. You have to be pretty high energy tho

This is unknown terrain for me though man. So take with a grain of salt. I’m still learning.

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Happy_123

4 days ago  TheRedPill

@Boosted_Arrow I would say trust yourself in these situations. Don't be afraid to tease the guy and the girl a little. If you can make them laugh then even better. Also, if you've interesting things going on in your life than you'll be more confident and at ease in these situations.

Happy_123

4 days ago  TheRedPill

Looking on advice on what I should do with my critical/complaining girlfriend. We've been together for 9 months and recently moved in together. Over the past couple of months I've noticed she criticises me. This has increased a lot recently.

For example I went to the shop to get us stuff to make dinner. And she first of all comments regarding the lack of sustainability of food I bought as its something that was imported from the other side of the world. Then she complains about the way I cut the ends off and throw it away. So I tell her there's a way to encourage someone to be sustainable and this is not it. She eventually storms off and sleeps in the spare bedroom for the night. Often times she'll pick the stupidest stuff to criticise me on, like that some piece of food I add to a dish doesn't suit the entire meal. Today she asked me "Do I think this working or not" She's also told me about some star sign bullshit and how it says we're not a good fit because she likes to argue and I don't

So to sum up:

  • She seems generally unhappy, probably in the relationship & in life in general.
  • She seems to have more criticisms than compliments for me

I care about her but I think she's being unnecessarily bitchy. Her argument would be that I'm not being proactive enough in something that she really cares about (sustainabilty). My argument is that overall I'm good with it and that you can't expect to change someone like that

Should I just let her go?

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_Zavss_

4 days ago  TheRedPill

@MikeLitoris

You don't want women and money.

You want freedom and the will to power.

You'll see men who got a wife and make way more then 6 figs. yet they act like complete puss bois.

Intelligent decison making with money leads to the freedom you seek.

Reading and lifting leads you to the will to power.

It's that simple.

All you need is consistency and disipline.

That's the hard part.

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