@joyboy

But even by redpill theories it says women are only attracted to the top men. So how am i supposed to not compare myself to that

Stop taking these "theories" in such black and white dude. You're definitely sperging hard

TRP SAID THIS GUYS, I MUST BELIEVE IT'S 100% THIS OR THAT

dude seriously you're destroying your own journey having absolutely no sense of nuance. It's all black and white for you.

Use common sense dude, do you see 95% of women with the "top men" no. C'mon dude. Start thinking

@joyboy

what do I need to do IRL to fix my self esteem

Try to close and see that the sky doesn't fall down and that some girls will say yes.

Srsly dude the more you try to find some inner psychological bullshit closure the longer it's going to take for you to actually develop any self esteem

You're embarking on a sheer bullshit inner journey that will result in worse closing skills

@s111s And I do like a few things about myself but it's not enough to overpower the negatives

@s111s Yes exactly, what do I need to do IRL to fix my self esteem. That was my original question. I asked for was the steps i need to take in order to do that and people started asking me questions.

I know your going to say it's all in my head or that nobody really cares that much about anyone or something like that but idk it just sucks. It doesn't feel that way especially when i see the effort other people put in to their relationships/friendships

@Kloi I feel like 95% of people my age already have experience and i feel left out/behind. It's not like everyone is some slayer but i mean most people have been in relationships and at least done some stuff with a girl by the time they graduate university.

And i feel unattractive because I guess I'm not interesting enough or charismatic enough to have people want to be around me and engage with me. Like i could get some half assed invitations to going out but then people never follow up or if I do end up going it feels like i'm not really there and just observing from the outside. It feels like people are either inviting me out of pity or im basically inviting myself. Its hard to explain but i never felt like i belong or actually wanted by anyone.

@Kloi Yes good point there is strng confirmation bias as the algorithiums learn what you think and only feed you that point of view. Any site even TRP comes with a risk of confirmation Bias.

@Kloi But even by redpill theories it says women are only attracted to the top men. So how am i supposed to not compare myself to that

I came across this Asian guy dating advice channel. I like he uses videos and breakes them down. He is quite soft spoken but some stuff is good and funny.

On his channel I have seen perfect video illustrating your weekend post about shy girls being sluts. Fucking hilarious.

tiktok. com/@this_is_me_yes_it_is/video/7226440013599362331

also seen this perfect example of cringe when a guy puts a woman on a pedestal by overcomplimenting and no game [arguably attractive guy that crashed and burned this way] - starts around 7th minute

youtube. com/watch?v=XPlgChdJnew&t

and some breakdown of IDK Korean dating show, good to see some differences of how the Korean girls behave like in comparison to the Wester girls youtu. be/9VSHRH-EczI

@joyboy

I’m unattractive (not just the physical sense).

no one is going to be your therapeutist here, you can only improve it in IRL, you start to sound like you came here only for validation, do whatever you need IRL, asking here for compassion and getting it, will give you no more than a short dopamine hit and you will be doomed

find one [not even 2] good [or best] thing about you and do that - or find it - and do it.