@luhcray

LTR of 5 years wants a long "break" after arguement... not an official breakup tho?

Now look guys... I've been RP-aware for ~6 years now, and I know what the automatic instinct is when you read a title like that. We all assume she's mentally checked out and ready to ride the cock carousel. I wouldn't have wasted my time posting this if I didn't feel there were a few key differences in this scenario, and I'm honestly stumped.

My LTR of 5 + years is attached, submissive, and I don't see any glaring red flags as far as possible infidelity/losing attraction. Up until literally 12 hour after this happen was asking me to hang out with her on a damn near daily basis. When chicks want to go liberate themselves, typically what I hear is that the break is initiated completely randomly. Even if not... I've had plenty other arguments with my girlfriend that could have given her the opportunity to drop this line.

Honestly guys, she seemed really upset. It was a stupid political thing that I really, really don't even want to get into. Actually, that wasn't even the real reason for her initiating the break - it was what followed, and I did kinda snap. I said things I shouldn't have (and went like... REALLY hard) because we've never let differences in political opinions cause issues before (we're faith aligned which is all that matters to me) but for some reason, this really did it for me so there was a lot of name calling... a lot of fuck you's flying around and senseless insults from me... please spare me the speech about frame slippage, there were drinks involved, I'm really looking for something concrete here. I know guys.

She initiates it as a breakup the next morning, in tears. But I could tell how based on how she didn't want me to permanently cut her out/how she kept alluding to us "finding each other" again, that this was really a break up with the intent to get back together at some point. Which she later made clear to me- she verbatim said she never initiated the break up with the intent of it being final. This quickly became difficult for me to navigate. I corrected her and let her know what she's really suggesting is a "break" (yes we know it's typically the precursor to a breakup), and now we're in that status. In her own words... basically we're demoted to just being exclusive. We're "together", but separate... and she suggests doing this, nearly full blown no-contact for 8 FUCKING MONTHS...

Again, before you rush to the comments with your one-liners, let me bring the situation back down to earth for a minute. This is my LTR of 5 years that was attached at the HIP to me not even a full day before. Calling me several times a day, initiating nearly 100%, attached, sexually submissive. Goes without saying, but there were no obvious signs like protecting the phone - I even have her location (and she offered for me to keep it during the "break")...

Here's where I'm at... I don't think she's going to even last a full month sticking to this... but if for some insane reason she actually does, I know there's no way in hell I can (for obvious reasons). So I'm thinking initiate a breakup if she doesn't crawl back in a month or less. I don't like the idea of forcing her to not do this stupid "break" she wants to do just to remain a couple, because then nothing will feel authentic (plus she may even begin resenting me). I am 95% confident if I told her the break isn't an option and if she wants to remain with me or have any future chance with me, she would oblige... but I don't want to do that. Not because of some moral high ground, because it'd feel fake.

What the fuck is going on?

Or is she really just checked out... and that's it? Am I coping or missing something entirely? Hopefully the copium levels aren't too high here. I'd like to be perfectly clear- if you guys think she's just trying to cockride, please let me know and share your opinions. I even ran a little mind trick on her (something I never do) to get a better idea of her mental- I told her I wouldn't mind her hooking up with other guys as long as it was only over the break and I could see other women too... and she passed- wasn't for that, said she wants to stay exclusive. Huh?? I just personally can't reconcile that with my years of RP experience taking into account she was the one always pursuing, not showing any negative signs/red flags, sexually available, just attached and eager to please in general. Frequently alluding to marriage, even in recent times. But she initiates "break" so we can "grow back stronger". Help me out guys, I'm stumped.

Possible answers:

1. Maybe she actually does want to cheat/there is another guy.

2. Maybe she's genuinely just upset about the argument.

3. Maybe this is some elaborate type of shit test I haven't encountered yet and she's seeing how I'd react in the event of her initiating a break up.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@universitythrowaway

Screening for logistics on first date and when to not attempt to f close?

Been recently going to get drinks on first dates. I’m living with my family again after living alone at university so my place is out of the question. A lot of girls around my age range are also living with their parents too until they plan to move out.

What tips do you use to screen for logistics on the first date?

My last date went with drinks -> flirting -> asked her to watch a movie we were talking about at her house -> she said she lives with her parents still -> car make out -> tried to escalate more but she wanted to go slower. As you can see this is not ideal and I would prefer to not hook up in a car anymore.

I have another first date coming up with similar logistics she lives with her parents and we’re getting drinks near her place.

To answer my question I have two solutions

1. Follow the same steps and see if she’s willing to invite me back to her parents house
   • If not suggest a hotel we can go to
2. Don’t attempt to f close on the first date. I’ve heard some people saying this increases the chances of the second date lay, this would also make it easier to invite her to a hotel the next date

Hotels or air bnb not an option? Don't act like a schnook, study the book.

@DaxerZone

Beginner here needs help on what to start/materials etc

Hey bros, so very recently I have started to get fed up with my lack of success on the dating market and I came across the RedPill subreddit and then this forum.

I have heard of RP before, but didn't explore it. Now, to provide some context on me + current situation and then finally the questions I wanna ask.

So, I'm a freshly 22year old 1st year master student in AI at a technical university. One of my main issues is the need/craving for connections, desirability. I have an idea as to why this is, and I will try not to phrase it as an excuse: middle school I was bullied to hell by a bunch of my colleagues and I was never able to integrate in the class. I did have friends outside of it, some also in school but never in the class which has damaged my whole perception of validation - I so desperately wanted to be accepted in that class that I tried everything and I was chasing that respect that ofc never came, I craved the spotlight and still do. These years of middle school made me shy to an unnatural degree in school environments, and especially with girls. Then high school came, and some of those assholes from middle school ended up in the same high school where they also managed to fuck up my experience a bit (not as bad as middle school, I wasn't popular but I wasn't a reject anymore) till I got into a fight with one of them and funnily enough that seemed to solve it. The shyness with girls continued, but I started to read some RP stuff and getting some dates and some short lived relationships.

All culminated at the end of it, almost 19 when there was this girl I was seeing and I was about to lose my V-card. Only that I got hit with performance anxiety, and not only I had to deal with the fucking disappoinment I had to also console her/stop her from crying and that has also fucked with my brain. After that I had a few attempts to try again to lose my V-card, not many but same outcome - couldn't fucking get hard for the life of me. And no, I don't watch porn so at least I'm not that low. Problem is these incidents are constantly on the back of my mind, and it makes me more desperate for sex than I should be which is very fucking bad

One advantage I have is my height, I'm 6"5 so I should be having much more success at least based on that fucking thing, but I fail again and again. I do some cold approaches from time to time but they don't feel comfortable to me yet, had a whole bunch of like numbers/insta's but yea as we all know an insta/number doesn't always mean smth. I always have this stupid little voice in my brain saying "oh she's busy, oh she didn't make eye contact bla bla bla". Another issue I have is that I have relatively high standards which combined with the lack of field experience is a shit combination

Other than that, I'm doing fine in life. Hobbies wise I joined a beach voleyball team so I can train for the summer/learn a sport and meet people + a surfing association bcs its a cool thing to do and gives you a more chill vibe (or at least I hope)

One thing I am lacking right now is in the gym department, I am starting on it slowly as I am firmly in the skinny-fat category.

Now, my question to you guys is: what should I do first? Seeing there are so many topics/videos/books what should I start with? What problems could be that I overlooked to mention/ I am completely fucking blind to?

Any help is appreciated

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.