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@Dorsun > simply nothing comes to mind, and it's not that I don't want to, I do I just don't have anything to talk about I heard some
Talk about stuff that interests YOU
also I read about some flirting tips, here, on other websites but as they are very abstract as to 'you need to feel the conversation' and such it's not very helpful, probably something with my choice of words is not good
this is for later, when you can basically talk.
any ideas on how can I improve this? any tips? books?
Join a public speaking group. It'll push you to be a much better and braver speaker.
@itiswr1tten I can understand what you mean, but I do want those things, I just feel lazy to work for them I think I don't know how to have dedication when it's just me, I thought of going to a personal trainer to have me build a got dedication / perseverance
@itiswr1tten I see...any tips on how to work on myself Honestly I don't know what I want or how to get it and when I stop and think about it I'm like having basically very vague things like having an income of X a year, be in a loving romantic relationship, travel, etc. But I don't do anything to get it, those are just a fantasy to me As I'm writing this I know what your response will probably be 'so set goals and work to achieve that' but I can't seem to be able to work towards it
@cantkillfaith yeah well a lot of people tell me to 'not force it' but what happens is just...silence And mainly in group gathering I just sit and listen to conversations, and if someone starts talking to me it's for a few minutes and then he/she turns around and go to talk to someone else... And I stay 'alone' (there are still people around me and conversations that I'm 'in them')
So I think that at least at the beginning I should 'fake it until you make' but I don't know even how to fake it :(
@TheRedPike yeah I like dancing salsa, I'm doing some improv classes, learning another language Playing video games and watching series, I read books Playing pool and such Maybe nothing here I really to do by myself but with people, but still I do enjoy them
I have a problem I'm not sure how to solve... I don't know how to improve my talking skills, when I talk to girls either alone or in a group, in person or in text, I just have nothing to say, which means mostly that the conversation will freeze... I have no idea how to improve those skills, as I try to talk (mostly on text) but nothing comes out, when I try to talk to set a date or something or to advance to some next level somehow I always get ghosted and I don't understand what am I doing wrong
I don't know how to explain it better, I just don't know what to talk about, simply nothing comes to mind, and it's not that I don't want to, I do I just don't have anything to talk about I heard some say that "there's is nothing wrong to stay silent, let her do some work" but hell, they don't do any work, not with me anyway (I have friends that they do initiate conversation and much more) and I don't know how to improve it, it's not like I have feedback from them, like...I have...dead silence. so...yeah...I don't know how can I solve it, the best way I can think of is to look at other people conversations and learn things from them, but for that I need to find people's normal conversations but which I can't seem to find...
also I read about some flirting tips, here, on other websites but as they are very abstract as to 'you need to feel the conversation' and such it's not very helpful, probably something with my choice of words is not good
any ideas on how can I improve this? any tips? books?
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