My gf sent nudes to a guy while we were broken up and I just found out and I’m not sure if it’s right to stay with her or not. I’m 18, she’s my first gf and first body. Ive broken up with her a couple times for her lack of sex drive. She’s been on antidepressants since a young age and claims she never liked sex. Our last break up was 2 months ago and since then she’s been great and has gotten off antidepressants and always puts out sexually now. The breakup was about a week long. I slept with two girls during that time and eventually when I went back to my ex I disclosed that too her to see whether she’d be okay with it or not. We’ve been good these past two months and the other day we were bullshitting and she slips out of her mouth that she sent nudes to one other person while we weren’t together. I feel in a weird shitty position because although I do judge her for sending nudes to a dude not even a week after we were done but she nvr hung out with him. If I found out she did stuff with another guy I would be done with her. She also said once we started talking again she blocked him and that she only did it because she felt shitty that I dumped her and she thought it would make her feel better but it didn’t. Also during our breakup she immediately heard about me talking to other girls and doing shit with some of them so she said that made her want to do it as well. I’m really in between on this. I don’t doubt her loyalty at this moment and her ability to keep being a good girlfriend but it’s this one detail in the past that’s bothering me and I’m not sure if it’s worth dumping this girl or accept it for what it is.
Reads like you do doubt her loyalty, otherwise you wouldn't be posting here. You both had a chance to make a relationship happen and work, but it didn't take. There's no shame in letting a woman go, we men will do it many times over. The shame comes from learning nothing from those past relationship failures. When you two were broken up, you should've moved on to a new girl so she'd be free to pursue a new guy.
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Read MoreI feel in a weird shitty position because although I do judge her for sending nudes to a dude not even a week after we were done but she nvr hung out with him
Well, you were broken up, you fucked two other women, and she only sent nudes.
If I found out she did stuff with another guy I would be done with her.
She probably knows this, so probably won't tell you if she did. But maybe she didn't.
don’t doubt her loyalty at this moment and her ability to keep being a good girlfriend but it’s this one detail in the past that’s bothering me and I’m not sure if it’s worth dumping this girl or accept it for what it is.
Two main points here:
The low sex drive thing can't be tolerated if it continues. Partly because it's often untrue (ie the low sex drives applies to the guy she's dating), partly because it's just awful to be exclusive to. So hopefully that's fixed.
Second point: assuming that what she says is true and you believe her: this is absolutely nothing compared to what most women do, if she's otherwise great it's not worth losing a rare relatively-good woman over.
Read MoreMy gf sent nudes to a guy while we were broken up and I just found out and I’m not sure if it’s right to stay with her or not. I’m 18, she’s my first gf and first body. Ive broken up with her a couple times for her lack of sex drive. She’s been on antidepressants since a young age and claims she never liked sex. Our last break up was 2 months ago and since then she’s been great and has gotten off antidepressants and always puts out sexually now. The breakup was about a week long. I slept with two girls during that time and eventually when I went back to my ex I disclosed that too her to see whether she’d be okay with it or not. We’ve been good these past two months and the other day we were bullshitting and she slips out of her mouth that she sent nudes to one other person while we weren’t together. I feel in a weird shitty position because although I do judge her for sending nudes to a dude not even a week after we were done but she nvr hung out with him. If I found out she did stuff with another guy I would be done with her. She also said once we started talking again she blocked him and that she only did it because she felt shitty that I dumped her and she thought it would make her feel better but it didn’t. Also during our breakup she immediately heard about me talking to other girls and doing shit with some of them so she said that made her want to do it as well. I’m really in between on this. I don’t doubt her loyalty at this moment and her ability to keep being a good girlfriend but it’s this one detail in the past that’s bothering me and I’m not sure if it’s worth dumping this girl or accept it for what it is.
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