What did I do wrong?
I recently went on a date with a woman who was slightly older(36) than me(33). She worked as manager in a tech company(I am in defense and make more money than her but her salary was fairly close). Anyway for the date we went on a walk in a park, I wasn't feeling terribly connected but I decided to talk about kink(BDSM) stuff which she was receptive to. I ended up making out with her and fingering her off the trail(multiple times). We didnt have sex but in retrospect I am pretty certain she would of had I gone for it.
Anyway at the end of date she says she doesn't know if she wants to date me or not but she would let me know in a couple days, the next day she messages me and says she wasn't interested. The chick was kind of walking red flag in the context of LTR material(said she was single because no men measured up, dysfunctional relationship with her father, called herself sexually conservative but went to BDSM clubs).
I'm not so much bothered that relationship didnt work out(she was hot but starting to show her age and for a LTR I think I would want a younger girl) but I don't understand why she decided she never wanted to see me again. This isnt the first time I have seen extreme mood swings from women I did sex stuff with on the first date but in her case I don't understand what turned her off to going out again. The whole thing was pretty odd.
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What did I do wrong?
I recently went on a date with a woman who was slightly older(36) than me(33). She worked as manager in a tech company(I am in defense and make more money than her but her salary was fairly close). Anyway for the date we went on a walk in a park, I wasn't feeling terribly connected but I decided to talk about kink(BDSM) stuff which she was receptive to. I ended up making out with her and fingering her off the trail(multiple times). We didnt have sex but in retrospect I am pretty certain she would of had I gone for it.
Anyway at the end of date she says she doesn't know if she wants to date me or not but she would let me know in a couple days, the next day she messages me and says she wasn't interested. The chick was kind of walking red flag in the context of LTR material(said she was single because no men measured up, dysfunctional relationship with her father, called herself sexually conservative but went to BDSM clubs).
I'm not so much bothered that relationship didnt work out(she was hot but starting to show her age and for a LTR I think I would want a younger girl) but I don't understand why she decided she never wanted to see me again. This isnt the first time I have seen extreme mood swings from women I did sex stuff with on the first date but in her case I don't understand what turned her off to going out again. The whole thing was pretty odd.
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