@redpillschool seeing that video of her, at first I was thinking that she might have a point, but as the video went on something felt more and more off about her yapping.

where I feel that the husband fucked up is when he fit right in the stereotype of the incompetent husband: "you ask me what to do every day [at dinner]" / "you ask me what they need in their backpacks". I could imagine her seeing him asking this with a dumb face/voice, instead of "let's eat pasta this week", or "oh I forgot to put [item] in the backpack? let's see how the kid will handle that and what can we teach him about that". imo that would be a way better way to deal with these things. In the long run what's the big deal if the kid has a minor inconvenience at school? I think that these.. items could be easily avoided.

even though I like cooking, I loathe the time I waste doing it, so I mainly batch cook, around 7kgs of chicken breast with roughly the same amount of vegetable puree, which then I portion and throw in the freezer. my wife often gives me shit about it, but I am absolutely certain that deep down she respects the fact that if push comes to shove and she doesn't/can't cook at some point, I can easily revert to my default meal without skipping a beat. If she tries to make me cook and I don't feel like it I'm offering her my menu and she can take it or leave it. If I'm in the mood to cook then it's not an issue for me.

with regards to the household chores, a thing that I notice is rarely touched upon is the individual TOLERANCE THRESHOLD to certain aspects. in almost every LTR/marriages I see, the female has a much lower one to, let's say, dust gathering up. I can live just fine if most areas in my house are dusty, and when I have periods when I'm particularly focused on my life goals, I totally neglect my house and it becomes a mess. I am so in the zone that I don't see myself doing it. It might not look nice, but most of the time I don't give a fuck. But if I do jack shit and my wife does all the housework, in this case I do tend to feel more as the boy taken care of and that's not good in the long run.

When my tolerance threshold is passed, then I do the cleaning or whatever is needed. In these situations I do not accept being bitched at; I've kindly told my wife my tolerance theory and told her that she can gladly fuck off and do [chore] if it bothers her that much, I can live with that. On the flip side I have a very low tolerance for crumbs gathering in a certain part of the floor in the kitchen, so I'm brooming that part several times a day. We also have a DIY sliding door that keeps on derailing, and she does not seem to mind that, but there I step in because I can't tolerate that. On the (neutral?) side, for some reason I absolutely love loading/unloading the dishwasher, and my wife risks being bitched at if I'm not doing that. So, different individual thresholds for different chores.

This being said I'm not meaning this as a contradiction to your article. I explained my tolerance theory, with the "telling her to fuck off" part to a lot of blue pilled buddies and so far they did not become OuTRAgEd; they mostly agreed. So it's more of a corollary maybe?

@Typo-MAGAshiv good video. JP Sears is a motherfucker, thanks for bringing him up on my radar again. a comment there says: " She was complaining about the dishes being clean. " hahaha

A female friend of mine got negged in a beautifully unintentional way; let's call her Brienne.

There was this dude (Xander) that more or less frequented the same bars as we did, and the three of us had a LOT of common acquaintances. I did not know him personally nor did I talk with him, but at some point I found out that he had a big crush on Brienne, to which she had a strong reaction: some sort of mix of being pissed off and demoralized at the same time.

As this felt a bit too much despite this Xander dude did not having the best of reputations, I asked other friends of Brienne what the deal was with her reaction, to which some replied slyly: "it's known that Xander likes curvy girls". Hahaha, it seems that THIS got to her more, and poor Brienne wasn't even fat, quite the contrary.

sometimes I forget how important it is to have a good awareness of subtle power plays between people.

I met a dude recently who is the new drummer in my former band. at first impression he seems like a cool dude but I had an interesting interaction with him. He was probably drunk while I was sober the whole evening.

At some point he told me that he thinks I'm cool to which I directly replied that I think he's cool as well. it came naturally to me then as I do feel that about him, but only now it dawned on me that I might have leveled the playground by not letting him have the power to define me.

The overall tone was friendly and we were just the two of us at that moment, but I couldn't help but notice that he was a bit surprised by my reply and took a split second to recompose himself, then he added that I'm more relaxed than he thought I was. I maintained the friendly tone but inquired why did he thought that about me, to which he did not have a clear answer which brings me to several possible scenarios: he was indeed sizing me up, my former band mates who are theoretically my friends talked some shit about me behind my back and he just spilled the beans on that one, or he was just expecting me to lap it up without any ulterior motive

what are your thoughts on this? this being said I won't lose sleep over this so that's that, but this interaction had me philosophizing about this kind of human interactions, which are often overlooked to one's own peril. The only thing I'm pissed about is that I did not have anyone to teach me about this when I was younger, and I can admit I could still improve in reading and reacting accordingly, when someone is indeed making actual power moves.