@AFTSOV very true, I was just reading that a public place first is always the right choice for a few reasons. Making sure she isn’t a nut and to avoid rape charges. Not sure about the rape thing I need to get more serious about that and read up more on it. As of now it’s not a serious concern of mine, but if I plan on keeping it red (which I do) I should definitely read up on this topic and learn how to avoid rape charges
@AFTSOV happy to:) she messaged me on pof. I kept my messages short and non enthusiastic. I come to find out she lives an hour away from me. She messaged me this morning she wants to go on a date with me in the city. I said why not just come here she said okay. We set a time for 7:45 at a bar. When we met I went in for a big hug that lasted a little to long (as instructed) after that I led her to our seats. Unfortunately we couldn’t sit side by side but I made sure to come up with reasons to touch her. Her tattoos, jewelry, even a fist bump:) I kept my mouth shut for the most part and let her reveal herself while I just kept asking questions so she can expand on what she is saying. I made several sexual innuendos and snuck in there I’ll be taking her back to my place for some wine. She agreed very enthusiastically, we came back to my place and did the great dirty deed!!! Even while we were fucking she said you know I only came here to have dinner not fuck. I’m like yeah whatever you say as I was pounding her. We finished only after she spilled wine on my carpet (the bitch). And then she cuddled for a minute not stopping about how good I look and left asking me if I had a good time. I said jokingly that it was terrible. I didn’t admit to having a good time. I walked her to her car wished her a goodnight and kissed her. Now I’m here typing this not believing this actually worksRead More
I feel like I owe them an experience
That's pretty much the name of the game. Women are emotional creatures- they want to feel. The experience doesn't have to be you spending a bunch of money on her. Get her heart fluttering once in a while. Suddenly pulling her along excitedly, almost kissing then not, pulling her into your frame, this sort of thing. Most guys are playing it safe and end up acting safe, predictable, boring, flat affect, trying to ooze their way into her frame.
Human relationships are more transactional then many want them to be. It DOES pay to have her leave feeling fulfilled for her investment of time and travel. What I'm saying is, your contribution to the exchange doesn't have to be beta-esque conventional date activities or monetary.