Hello, I’ve been on the channel for a bit. I’ve understood some other trp stuff and I just want to see your guys’ input.
I’ve recently broken up with my first gf and we have been living together in SF. Our lease is about to end and we are moving to LA. She’s going to medical school and I have a better job that pays more in LA. At first we were going to live together but she’s has a lot of issues on me being beta (not being fit, no being able to deal with tough situations, and not being “man” enough). We agreed to live separately and honest I’m not as sad when we broke up. She does still want to keep me around and maybe a possibility to to live together next years because she wants to be on her own for the first year. She says she doesn’t want to look for guys and only wants to fuck me for now
My question is how should I proceed this situation with keeping her, converting her into a plate, move on). I know I have a lot to work on myself to become more of a man.
Her and I went through a lot together and I do want to get back to her but I need to know what do u guys think.
What I want to do is plate my ex and if she wants to get back together she needs to initiate it. For me for now is improve my SMV and gain more experiences with women. If she wants to live together again I’ll probably make her wait after medical school because I believe I am just a placeholder for now.
Take a few minutes to ask yourself if you could honestly compete with the sort of guys that attend and graduate from California's medical schools as you are now, then ask yourself those same questions you ran passed us. The changes you've observed in your ex's recent behavior won't last long and it'll also require discipline on your part to maintain the mindset which has provoked this change. Study the book. It's rarely in any guys best interests to live with a female who isn't their grandmother, mother, sister, daughter, or wife, no matter how convenient the pu$$y might be. You parting ways will correct that.
You both had your chance and blew it primarily because you were both unprepared to be in a relationship. Friend-zone her and leave it at that. If you keep in touch, limit contact to face-to-face, birthday, and holiday well wishing. If she texts, you reply, busy, if at all. If she calls, let it go to voicemail. Shift your focus back onto developing yourself and concern yourself with a friends with benefits situation later. However, while what you ultimately do is entirely up to you, you don't need our permission or approval going forward. It's your life, live it well.
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thank you I appreciate your help in my time of darkness
Platitudes are unnecessary. If the information is indeed useful, then use it to your benefit. She had her chance with you, there's no shame moving on without her.
@carnold03 thank you I appreciate your help in my time of darkness
First serious relationship. What should I do?
I’ve been with girl for 2.5 years. She is a family member of my best friend and we met in PR. We started seeing each other every weekend. I live in NorCal and she lives in SoCal. We both made the efforts to met each other. She fit and attractive but she has had a bunch of bad relationships and daddy issues. Long story short after a year and a half I met her family and got a marriage license. NOT MARRIED TO HER. And she agreed to move in with me in NorCal. She didn’t have much going on with her life but just apply to medical school. I’ve helped her out financially but after 2.5 years she wants out after she got accepted into Med school. She told me I’m not her type because I’m unfit, sloppy, and poor social skills. She will be staying at my pad till she starts school which is in 6 months. What should I do and should I even consider to try to get back with her
Reads like you really need to talk to your best friend and give him a heads up that his sister's going to need to crash someplace else when she starts the coming semester. Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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