@Apollo I use different versions of that pretty often depending on how the banter is going.
"Get to know me? That's what the date is for, silly."
"We don't need to be pen-pals. You live 10 minutes away. You can get to know me over wine. No strings."
"I can't really get to know someone by text. How about we talk to each other face to face old-school like our parents? It'll be fun."
@arakouzo I hope that is the case. I guess until I "like myself" and see myself as "the version I want to be", I have to initiate conversations with otfer people, take the first step while doing the "simple" and "basic" things like go gym, good diet and work on my own shit to make "bank"? In a way my ego prevents me from taking the first step. "Why should you be the one to say hello", "why should you be the one to be polite", "why should you be the one to take things and de-escalate", and the list goes on. But I guess I have to. In a way some bosses and succesful people are very strategic with their energy and relations to people. I assume obviously now they don't initiate the first step, but I guess they used to when they were "level 0". I guess life is like a game? Start from level 0 and be the one to eat shit for some time, initiate conversations with people, try to be interested in them while working on my own shit?! Maybe simple, maybe not but I have a friend that does this. Hes got nice body, wife and a kid. Man works full time, goes to Uni (my class) and takes care of his family. So I guess is possible and is all about time and energy. Well maybe need to fix energy first and the only way I believe is with the positive feedback loop. Go gym, diet and good sleep. I cannot wait for energy to come in order to do these activities. Gotta start from somewhere, but is not easy and very unlikely to end up in a some good situation. Well maybe I gotta try and see. Time will tell. Is good to write my thoughs and get rid of the heavy thoughts in my mind.Read More
@kimsinrd A lot of salty men think that 99% of women are on onlyfans, all making money hand over fist. But only the upper tier of girls on there make any reasonable amount of cash.
A lot of guys seriously over-estimate what it takes to be above average, though. Something simple, like cooking decent food and delivering it, can turn some dude's average restaurant into an above average restaurant.
Likewise, something simple, like going to the gym and not eating like shit and actually talking to women in public instead of creepily staring across the room, can turn some loser average guy into a stand-out above-average guy.
Most people are losers. It doesn't take much to set yourself apart nowadays. Obviously, to be some kind of top 0.0001% of men who just enters a room and women line up to suck his dick, you need some lucky genetics and the perfect social skills. But you don't have to be that guy to be a stand-out person who has a great life. You can be well above average if you just work out, eat right, socialize with the right people and work hard at your job, and talk to women in public.
If you approach life with the realization that most people are losers, and most people just wake up, eat, work, eat, work, eat, and sleep, and that's all, and when you talk to someone in line at the bank or dry cleaners or coffee shop with his or her nose in their phone, you doing that might annoy them but might also be the most interesting thing that happens to them today, it changes everything. Even if you suck and embarrass yourself and annoy someone, you're doing people a favor by actually making their day a little more interesting.Read More
I don't know if is a sad truth but reality is that the parreto distribution is everywhere.
"according to the numbers XRUS put together, the top 1% of OnlyFans content creators account for 33% of all the money. Extrapolating that out further, the top 10% of all the accounts on OnlyFans make 73% of the money, with the site positing it’s easier for people who already have popular social media platforms elsewhere to make the transition to paid subscribers than for people to start at 0 and build an entire following."
As a man in eary 20s, I am having hard time understanding how nature works (money) and blows my mind that the parreto distribution cannot be espaced. Makes me uncomfortable to know that I will soon finish final year of University and I have no idea what I am going to do. A regular job for the rest of my life, a regular life tryin to meet ends meet. How did I come to this conclusion?
Recently I started "working" (meeting their demands and requests) for some well off people financially. I see their mindset and the life they live. One day are in London, the next in Syndey, LA, Ibiza and are all over the world. Some pay like £4k pcm to live in the heart of the city and use it as their "storage" place for their belongings. Some are born into that lifestyle, some have worked hard but the truth is that they have "made it" and can afford to pay for what most people do themselves. My brain just doesn't get how money and social dynamics work when it comes to financial success. As the quote goes "you are the avarage of the five people you spend the most time with". Well I got 0. No routine, no specific purpose. I am very conscious about personality types and stuff that JBP talks about, but I don't know... I don't have the consistency even to go gym, read and improve myself. The crazy thing is that I am good with tech and I see some business ideas that make bank and I am capable in terms of coding) to achieve the same thing. But we all know that is not all about a single factor (for example is not just about code. it involves a lot of marketing and other factors). I just feel like I need to write this somewhere so I put it here with 0 expectations, since I don't have much expectations from anyone (only in times of desperation there is some hope but never an expectaton).
I like that TRP focuses on women and lifestyle. Feels good to read about people having success in life. I don't chase women because I don't like myself yet. Why would I chase women when if I was a girl wouldn't date myself? I am not "there" yet so I focus on improving myself (or I focus on the fact that I am not enough yet because I am lazy and inconsistent). And again I don't bother much because I see some people work so hard (day and night two shifts very skilled people) and they still fail to meet ends meet. It is a hard reality of life, but that is life and is easy to say "it is what it is" but dealing with shit is not easy. Is not supposed to be easy but linking back to my original point, there is the parreto distribution in everything and becoming the top 10% in a first world country where there is a lot of competition, opportunity and high cost of living is hard.
Another thing I was surprised about today is that I order food today from a respected high end resturant and literaly the owner delivered the door to my house. I am trying to understand psycologically and in terms of behaviour what seperates these people apart from the 90% of the population and puts them in the top 10%. IQ, orderliness, being disagreeable, good communication skill? I know people that have made it in different ways (mainly because I have worked for them and with them). Some slept in their cars for 4 years, saved and invested in a restaurant, some brought cheap construction worked and started their construction company, some started a platform for hospitality management with their tech skills and became part of the top 50 hospitaliy management property companies, some just work regular 9-5 but from remote and are well paid and got their finances sorted. In a way actually it makes me lose hope as an "immigrant" that moved to the UK 8 years ago. Finishing Uni soon and will see what life has to offer (or take away).
Yh just a late night thoughts posting here. If you disagree, its calm. Stay safe.Read More