@Chattyle Do yourself a favor. Get yourself the book "When I say No, I feel Guilty." Read it. Today. This is your homework. PM me with questions after you get the book. I expect to hear reports back from you.
@redpillschool many years. Shit was way worse before following red pill advice.
I’m not concerned with what she thinks as I see exactly what she is doing here. It’s classic female solipsism. I’m evaluating myself and how J
I know as men we are supposed to be emotional rocks and can’t expect emotional comfort from them. That’s fine. I think I made the right move by drawing a boundary and cutting off the conversation.
How do you deal with women making things about them when you’re having your own situation?
Scenario I’m sick with Covid/flu this weekend. Have been passed out basically the whole day. I have some of my own anxieties about being sick, but know you can’t depend on a woman to be your rock and provide frame. As such I’ve been maintaining frame, keeping conversation light, and mostly sleeping.
I see her throughout the day clearly being in a bad mood. Historically she always seems to have a bad day whenever I have my own problems that day… even if I don’t depend on her for anything that day.
She has been crying about her problems for a good 45 problems near the end of the night… mostly just listen. However, after this I might it clear that I’m passing out now, and I need to go to bed… that I have to draw a boundary here for my own health.
Let’s say she didn’t like that response and lockers herself in a different room.
What’s the game plan here in the future? Am I supposed to be able to provide limitless support even during my own tribulations, or was this the correct response?
You swallow your pride, accept that you made some damning compromises for the sake of pussy, and learn from the whole experience as you bail. No chick in any relationship behaves they way yours is completely out of the blue and not all relationships are worth fighting to maintain.
It reads like she sees you more as a rival or competition than as a companion. While it's good a guy finds this stuff out early on in the relationship, it also suggests that there were several red flags that went ignored on your part to get to this point.
The best recommendation I could make is that you prioritize getting over the Kung Flu. Get plenty of rest, avoid Tylenol, drink lots of fluids, take an over the counter multi-vitamin marketed for your age group, along with vitamin C, and a teaspoon of Cod liver oil each day from here onward. Use that downtime to decide if this behavior is something you're willing to put up with or not, because that's just part of the price you'll have to pay if you keep hitting that.
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@Chattyle yeah bud this woman is making it about herself and you're too concerned with what she thinks.
You've likely been feeding her neurosis for some time now.
How long have you been together?
@Chattyle you overshot. Its ok to be sick and check out once in a while, you are not supposed to be a robot. LTR-grade girls are ok with this.
How do you deal with women making things about them when you’re having your own situation?
Scenario I’m sick with Covid/flu this weekend. Have been passed out basically the whole day. I have some of my own anxieties about being sick, but know you can’t depend on a woman to be your rock and provide frame. As such I’ve been maintaining frame, keeping conversation light, and mostly sleeping.
I see her throughout the day clearly being in a bad mood. Historically she always seems to have a bad day whenever I have my own problems that day… even if I don’t depend on her for anything that day.
She has been crying about her problems for a good 45 problems near the end of the night… mostly just listen. However, after this I might it clear that I’m passing out now, and I need to go to bed… that I have to draw a boundary here for my own health.
Let’s say she didn’t like that response and lockers herself in a different room.
What’s the game plan here in the future? Am I supposed to be able to provide limitless support even during my own tribulations, or was this the correct response?
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