@Goodtimenotlongtime you sound like me around the turn of the century. I remained a virgin until 22 because I was sAvInG mYsElF for a fellow virgin. I found none.
It appears to be even worse now. Good luck.
Oh, btw: don't get married. At all.
The laws and court systems heavily favor women and need a major overhaul.
3y ago TheRedPill
I see a lot of talk about plates and prospective LTR. Among these conversations I see many disqualifying potential partners if they have a high N. My question is, what do you consider a high N as this seems subjective. Especially between a 20 year and someone who is 30.
Example - 5 partners at 20 is a lot different than 5 partners at 30.
Interested in your age and cutoff number.
Is it dependent strictly on the number or how she carries herself and her behavior
There is absolutely no difference between 5 partners by 20 or 5 partners by 30. For females, anything over two is terminally high and grounds for disqualification for relationship consideration. Studies, which I sadly lack sources to link to, have claimed a female that has had three or more sexual partners in her life has a severely reduced ability to pair bond. So, if your objective is to find a female which you might form a family with and have children, you now have an idea to validate your instinctive inclination to prioritize virgins over sluts when looking to form a lasting relationship.
Consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". The guy writes a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and runs a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's well worth the investment, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, but find money is an issue for you, you should be able to find copies through torrent sites, but I won't say where you should start on that endeavor.
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@Fawk_Face I feel you face a lot more risk / stress with a 19-20 year old. They may be good for a few years but what about when they feel they’ve missed out or decide they want the “college experience”
3y ago The Hub
@slutmagazine while I agree with the analogy, I have no interest in dating someone in their early 20’s. A lot changes mindset wise and maturity wise in your early - mid 20’a
3y ago The Hub
@slutmagazine I imagine it would be hard to find a 24 year old virgin in my area (Florida). And secondly, I don’t trust the maturity of a 18-24 year old. Life comes at you fast in your 20’s and they likely won’t have the maturity or level head of someone 27-30
3y ago The Hub
@Fawk_Face it would say that they have good self control and will power. However I would think that if they have high enough values to not have sex despite any LTR by the age of 30 they are also uptight in other areas. Perhaps not but I personally don’t know any virgins my age. I’m sure they exist but they are few and far between.
Lets say I find a virgin at 30. I then have to find them attractive (which I feel I rarely find a woman attractive enough to want anything past casual), be intelligent, outgoing, level headed, ect.
I’ve probably casually dated 15 women or so throughout my 20’s and none of them had what I wanted. I throw virgin into the mix and that’s a tough one. I could make due but that has a high chance of divorce in future years anyways due to incompatibility.
Personally, I feel that someone who has been reserved with sex (keeping it to relationships), is intelligent, modest, ambitious, and outgoing would be more compatible with me and have a higher chance of a successful relationship with me.
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@slutmagazine while I agree with most of this, I feel like a virgin at 30 years old likely will not be compatible with me. By some lucky chance they have preserved their virginity while going through college, night life, and the rest of their 20’s. But I feel that is quite rare, especially in today’s society. Even religious / conservative women typically have slept with someone after a couple of years of dating. For me there is a difference between someone who had sex in a relationship and someone who had a ONS, causal sex, FWB ect.
I would be imagine it a woman is a virgin at 29-30, she likely wouldn’t enjoy the same things I do, my humor, or how wild I tend to be at times.
With that being said, I would not consider a relationship with someone who has had casual sex or had around 10+ partners. I just don’t find that attractive
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@Fawk_Face the chances of me being compatible with a virgin I feel is slim to none ha. I’m quite the social person and come with a lot of crude and wild stories. I can definitely respect him saying he looks over their last behavior if they treat him right and carry themself well in current day but there is still a number that I consider a cutoff. From my past experiences with “casual dating” it I knew they had been with 10+ people or had a promiscuous stage where they went out drinking and casually hooked up, I’m OUT
3y ago The Hub
@neo_ I can respect this perspective and prefer someone who has not slept around or behaved promiscuously as well. I’m recently 29 and not sure of what to expect anymore ha. I’ve been casual with a variety of women over the last few years who’s numbers they claimed ranged from 10-20.
Recently I was with a woman I’ve known for many years. She had been with 7 and each of them was a relationship over the last 12 years. I respected that she claimed to have not behaved promiscuous (she’s also been a close friend in our friend group and no one has reason to believe otherwise) but 7 still seemed kinda a turnoff. But then again like I said, I’m nearing. 30 years old. Me myself, has been with about 22 people so I suppose that’s quite hypocritical of me ha