What is it like to not view everything in life through an emotional filter? Is it nice? Serene?
Is there a way to train oneself to suppress immediate emotional reaction where desired?
Also, will someone please kindly inform me what EC stands for? I’ve been pondering it for weeks. I’m asking nicely
@Zavss I’m really good at expressing my emotions. And crying lol. Just not so great at controlling them… I get in trouble for mouthing off a lot. Sometimes it’s hard in male-dominated spaces to not be such a bitch
@AFTSOV A surprising number of people these days are okay with polygamy. I myself would absolutely love it if my husband got a second wife or live-in girlfriend. I wouldn’t be alone at home all the time, we could split up the housework and childcare, I wouldn’t have to have more kids for mine to have siblings her age, threesomes on demand… What are the downsides?
He says one wife is enough work already though :/
@AFTSOV the RP philosophy says that having many sexual partners destroys a woman’s ability to pair bond because of something to do with the oxytocin (the bonding hormone) released during physical contact and orgasm and then moving onto the next one repeatedly. Also data extrapolation with previous behavior.
Personally, I think that it’s the other way around: women starting out with a damaged ability to pair bond tend to have more sexual partners in order to get the feel-goods without the commitment, the same reason that men have many partners.
@slutmagazine it’s certainly possible, but then you’d have to concede that would mean having many partners ruins men’s ability to settle down too, as they aren’t immune to oxytocin. And it seems to me that men can pretty easily make the switch from promiscuity to commitment, whereas it’s harder for women.
Further, there’s that whole thing with women being predisposed to be more sexually selective, being that the offspring they have are incredibly resource- and time-expensive and they’re stuck with them, whereas men can impregnate many partners at once and then leave if they want, so they are more selective about commitment.
@slutmagazine I was not expecting that
@Cashmoney6101 it’s amazing to me how much shit some people will put up with just to stay in a relationship. Hello?! That’s like five glaring red flags.
Respect yourself and your time, and don’t date people like that. There are literally thousands of better potential partners out there. No secrecy, no shadiness, no games, no gaslighting, no manipulation. Trust your gut, ffs.
@slutmagazine imma take that as a “no,” then
@slutmagazine look dude, I just want to make sure you’re not gonna like, off yourself via autoerotic asphyxiation at the local playground or something because you feel damaged from having casual sex