@Virtual_Hall8986

4 days ago a girl (18) chatted me (27) up, we talked a bit, she asked for my instagram. We exchanged and walked our ways. After 2 days I texted her. I was very dumb and instead of asking her out immediately I decided to have a friendly convo with her for that day (because that worked well for me with other young chicks). We chatted that day, I was busy though so I was not replying immediately (redpilled you may say). Yesterday I wanted to exchange 2-3 messages and ask her out. Sent those in the morning, but she ignored me for whole day and responded only today (but with 7 messages). I'm going out of town today and I could only meet her in 4 days. Should I keep some slow convo going until Sunday, or should I stay silent and ask her out when the day comes? I'm a bit afraid that long silence might do damage if she didn't mean to ignore and was busy for real. However keeping slow convo is also a big risk if she was becoming disinterested. Wyt?

It's good that you have an awareness that you moved too fast on this one. It showed her that your interest in her was greater than her interest in you, but not much else. The problem with texting is that you don't get the signs of interest you would otherwise get in face-to-face interaction. You should keep chatting up women while you're out and about, but don't go expecting too much with this one.

In the meantime, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.

4 days ago a girl (18) chatted me (27) up, we talked a bit, she asked for my instagram. We exchanged and walked our ways. After 2 days I texted her. I was very dumb and instead of asking her out immediately I decided to have a friendly convo with her for that day (because that worked well for me with other young chicks). We chatted that day, I was busy though so I was not replying immediately (redpilled you may say). Yesterday I wanted to exchange 2-3 messages and ask her out. Sent those in the morning, but she ignored me for whole day and responded only today (but with 7 messages). I'm going out of town today and I could only meet her in 4 days. Should I keep some slow convo going until Sunday, or should I stay silent and ask her out when the day comes? I'm a bit afraid that long silence might do damage if she didn't mean to ignore and was busy for real. However keeping slow convo is also a big risk if she was becoming disinterested. Wyt?

@Virtual_Hall8986

I was wrong. I thought I am redpillled. I went out with my male-friend and saw a girl at a bar I knew from before. I was into her for long time (not actively pursuing, and while she had bf, I didn’t try to reach to her, I didn’t really care too much). I’ve approached her, all nice n shit, invited to join us, she seemed very into me for an hour or so. But my friend with more exp turned tables around somehow, and 2 hours later she’s sitting on his lap. I wouldn’t care if I didn’t saw this, but seeing it made me feel like throwing up. I had “opportunity” and I fucked up. I don’t know what happened after, since I just fucking left, I saw him calling later probably wanted to find out where am I but I just couldn’t stay there. I’m problably going to block him & her, going to sleep now. I’m weak, though I thought I was strong.

All's fair in love and war. If you're having difficulty with the redpill when it comes to friends and dating, it's likely because you were given the wrong advice to start and directed towards books intended for spiritually broken men. The sort of men who're comfortable in bars are usually just fair weather friends, and the females you find in bars generally aren't the sort capable of being more than pumped and dumped. Learn from this, by introducing yourself and ask the chick who's caught your eye for their phone number, or don't bother concerning yourself with them at all.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.

I was wrong. I thought I am redpillled. I went out with my male-friend and saw a girl at a bar I knew from before. I was into her for long time (not actively pursuing, and while she had bf, I didn’t try to reach to her, I didn’t really care too much). I’ve approached her, all nice n shit, invited to join us, she seemed very into me for an hour or so. But my friend with more exp turned tables around somehow, and 2 hours later she’s sitting on his lap. I wouldn’t care if I didn’t saw this, but seeing it made me feel like throwing up. I had “opportunity” and I fucked up. I don’t know what happened after, since I just fucking left, I saw him calling later probably wanted to find out where am I but I just couldn’t stay there. I’m problably going to block him & her, going to sleep now. I’m weak, though I thought I was strong.