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@Vermillion-Rx Boy, could I have EVER used this as I was coming of age in the mid 80s, somewhat aspie and well behind the curve compared to my peers. The advice available at the time was rooted in 50s-60s norms. Dale Carnegie's How to win friends and influence people was a notable exception that holds up well to this day, but I didn't get my hands on a copy till the late 90s. My well meaning Mom told me, Just watch people, how they interact and make friends! Not very helpful, toward trying to jump start a social awareness later than all your peers, with no experience thus clue at the subtleties and presumptions others had worked through the learning curve of.

Literally spelling out all these details about social interaction, represents EXACTLY what guys currently in our younger shoes need, to get to a place on the learning curve where "just watching others interact " offers clues and insights one can actually pick up on then become able to learn from and actually integrate into the self.

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Vermillion-Rx

13h ago TheRedPill

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Just posted in TheRedPill forum

www.forums.red/p/theredpill/325372/how_to_develop_social_skills_from_scratch

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Typo-MAGAshiv

2d ago The Hub

@Butthead

@Vermillion-Rx

They often did the best they could for you with the knowledge they had for you at the time

Like Staind said:

I cannot blame this on my father

He did the best he could for me

My parents both had their faults, but at least they were loving and supportive. I've met so many people whose parents weren't, that I've learned to let any resentment go and just be grateful for how good they actually were.

Rest in peace, dad.

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woodsmoke

2d ago The Hub

@Vermillion-Rx

I've nothing to forgive. Plenty I could criticize were I so inclined,a few I'd change if I could. But it ain't the Old Man's fault the world has passed him by and invalidated a lot of the wisdom he was taught as a kid.

throwaway_old_guy

2d ago The Hub

@Vermillion-Rx

He was.

Vermillion-Rx

3d ago The Hub

Trillionaire Admin

@throwaway_old_guy

Damn. He sounds like he was a great man

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throwaway_old_guy

3d ago The Hub

@Vermillion-Rx

Mine has been gone 17 years.

He wasn't close, I chalk it up to his being tossed out of his home when he was 13 years old, which would have been 1941ish.

I don't know much about his story during those years, I do know he was self-reliant and everything I learned from him was more through osmosis than being given hands-on instruction.

He was selfless and spent his days helping others.

I'm grateful for having him as a Father and I still miss him.

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