"acta non verba"
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@Typo-MAGAshiv i'm not taking your temperature with my dick you dolt! I'm taking @va2000's girlfriend's temperature with your dick. Wait
@va2000 And if the subject change doesn't work, then add some Agree+Amplify to show her how silly she's being. "I was worried your tits were too big but I'll make do"
@va2000 All you get to do is control your reaction to it. You won't be able to stop her from making comments but you can prevent her from getting the reaction out of you she wants and that might train her out of it.
Also, if she's feeling a lack of comfort you can be a bit more proactive about rewarding her when she does good things / dresses up for you / cooks, etc.
In this case, your goal is to remain unmoved by her comments. You're on your mission, she's just along for the ride. If you didn't want her around, you wouldn't have her around. Since you do, that means your mission is already set. She doesn't dictate your mission, you do.
Look at her, give her a kiss on the forehead, and say "stop being silly" then change the subject.
@redpillschool that would be a relief.. I just can’t shake the feeling of becoming “whipped” as in she’s rubbing it in that I’m settling when I don’t have to. It’s not a one-off so even though I change the subject I know it’s going to keep coming up and it fucks with my gut sometimes. I know this part is because it reminds me that I should be on my purpose harder but I do want to appreciate and enjoy all the experiences along the way.
The last thing I feel like in this situation is offering comfort ( normally I love to give comfort when she is pleasing me or dressing for me etc.)
But you wouldn’t try to get her to stop bringing it up at all?
@va2000 Sounds like she's insecure and comfort testing. You could agree and amplify ("yeah i wish your tits were so big we could use them to crush cans" or "actually i was hoping you'd get a boob reduction"). Though if she's truly seeking comfort, you can just give her a kiss on the forehead and tell her to stop worrying about things that don't matter and then change the subject.
Might just be a shit test but what would you do with this:
Randomly this (unspoken) gf will just mention how damaged her skin is getting or how she’s getting old, or when I squish her tits together she’ll say you wish they were bigger? well they won’t get bigger”. It’s like she’s trying to lower my expectations but what it really does is just remind me of what I’m missing. I’ve had younger and sexier before and will again, but we enjoy each other in many ways and I don’t terminate trysts just because I can do better.
What should I respond with? It makes me want to just go out and spend time with other girls but doing that silently seems like pouting. The most straightforward response would be “don’t remind me of those things if we want to enjoy what we have, just don’t bring it up”. It is this too explicitave?
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