MGTOW stands for Men Going Their Own Way. It's a celebration of bachelorhood, of avoiding the financial and social burdens of marriage, including "common law marriage" or cohabitation.
Comfort is killing us.
We live in a world where the slightest inconveniences can be resolved with the tap of a button or banished with the quick swipe of a credit card – endless entertainment, same-day shipping, meal delivery, and abundant access to sugary foods, hard-hitting drugs, and porn provide us with a never-ending source of unearned dopamine.
The problem modern men face is not that these comforts or vices exist. But rather that our lives are engineered in such a way that discomfort can be largely avoided inside of our daily realities.
There’s nothing wrong with hot water, air conditioning, Amazon Prime, or social media. But when a man becomes too comfortable and when there are no immediate consequences for his unending pursuit of comfort, he begins to lose his edge.
As a society, we seem to have forgotten that this existence isn’t supposed to be easy. That discomfort and pain are a necessary and essential part of a rich and fully lived life.
We’ve become strangers to challenge and see anything that requires effort or sacrifice as an inconvenience we should be able to brush away with a single click.
But the truth is, everything worth doing in life is uncomfortable. It’s the adversity and discomfort that makes journeys worth pursuing. Because that discomfort leads to growth. It makes us better. Stronger. And more powerful.
How many men you admire have pursued a life of comfort? How many of them sat on the sidelines, Bud Light in hand, watching an endless stream of Netflix originals and doing only that which was easy?
The men we respect and attempt to emulate are the men who are willing to do the hard things. The reason we admire successful entrepreneurs, world-class athletes, best-selling authors, and adventurers is because they were willing to suffer and accept the discomfort required to fulfill their dreams.
This is true for them and it’s true for you.
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Self critical thoughts. Guilty thoughts. Thoughts about what I should have done. Fearful thoughts about what others think.
How dark are the thoughts that follow you around each day? Mine get pretty dark.
This is haunting if we let ourselves identify with them. We listen to the fears of inadequacy just because they won’t shut up. We believe we really are failures because it’s all we can think about – no matter how much self improvement we read. If it was possible for us to be fixed then why do we still feel so broken?
Stop. We are not our thoughts. I need you to see the bigger picture of who you are – not thoughts but actions. I bet you take great care of your pets even when you feel horrible. I bet you have tried self care like yoga and meditation and journaling so you can feel better. I bet you try to help out your friends and family in little ways. Your actions paint a different picture of you than your thoughts. I can’t stop you from judging yourself, but I can ask you to at least consider all the evidence.
I know you feel a lot of pain. I know the thoughts are dark and you wish they would stop. But don’t you dare believe that those thoughts define who you are. You never chose those thoughts. You didn’t ask to feel the pain and negativity. The real you is the one who decided what actions you wanted to take. Do not base your identity and self image on thoughts you don’t even want in your head. Look at the actions you take. Look at the work you put in, especially on the days when you don’t feel like it. That’s who you are.
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Let’s be honest:
How many goals have you stopped yourself from achieving?
You know what you need to do.
But you have an excuse, or maybe a few, that hold you back.
Well, it’s time to destroy those excuses.
So find your excuse, and learn why it’s a bunch of crap so you can get on with being the awesome person you are meant to be:
1) You aren’t smart enough.
Richard Branson, John Rockefeller and Henry Ford were high school dropouts.
You don’t need smarts to succeed:
You need discipline.
The reason productive people succeed isn’t because they already know how it’s because they execute.
I performed badly at school, and I’m no Branson, but I still achieve my goals because I do the work (and don’t beat myself up for that C in Spanish.)
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Ask yourself this every morning, every now and then. We know you love yourself and that is very healthy. We all know you believe in the “nobody’s perfect” speech so I cannot be it all. But the question to you today is, if you met someone exactly like you;
Someone who has no positive goals;
Someone who is only willing to do to their ‘limit’, but not push the bar to realize their true potential (which is only limited to their own desire BTW);
Someone who procrastinates all the time;
Someone who makes excuses only so they break their new habit streak/routine like working out, watching diet, rehabbing, meditating, applying new studying routines;
Someone who is ready to say ‘sorry’ instead of avoiding what would make them say ‘sorry’;
Someone who has no discipline and shout ‘NO’ to cravings, addictions, drawbacks, PMO, unnecessary spending, binge eating and drinking, stress eating, gaming forever, surfing the internet and YouTube-ing endlessly;
Someone who lacks respect for time;
If you met this YOU, would you like YOU, as your...
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Let’s set the record straight.
If women always tell you, “You’re a great guy but I don’t feel that spark…”
It’s because they don’t feel a sexual connection with you. And that’s most likely because you haven’t taken the right actions to facilitate that attraction.
You may be sweet and have engaging conversations. You make women laugh. You wait patiently until a girl’s comfortable with you.
That all builds rapport, trust, and comfort within a connection. But that’s rarely enough to have women desire intimacy with you.
I know this as true even without hearing your story. Easily 9 out of 10 times I’ll be right. People try to argue it’s not that cut and dry…but it is.
Some men stay in denial. They keep trying to “friend” their way into romance and never flirt, often due to the advice of their female friends.
Those guys struggle endlessly to build romantic connections.
Some women say I’m generalizing. They think that I’m ignoring individuality and preferences. They may even take it as a sexist remark.
I fully recognize and respect your uniqueness. I want other men to appreciate that, too.
But I also recognize patterns. So while maybe all you need is a kind guy who listens well for you to like him — you are in the minority.
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John came into treatment for pornography addiction feeling very discouraged. He had struggled with it for years. Because of the deep shame he felt, John tried to kick the addiction on his own but with no luck. He was feeling completely helpless. In order for John to succeed in recovery, he needed to switch from feeling helpless to feeling powerless. While these words may seem synonymous, they are completely different.
When a person feels helpless, he has little hope for a better future. He feels as if he’s stuck in his current situation forever. There is no help out there for him. It’s not hard to see how someone in this mindset could easily give up. This is where John was. He didn’t believe he could overcome his addiction. He even began to believe he would never be able to live without porn.
A person who feels powerless can have great hope for the future. This is because, while he realizes he doesn’t have the tools to fight this battle on his own, there are others who can help him win the battle. He is aware that there are many valuable resources available to him, and he uses them. Addiction can be viewed as an army that the addict must defeat. However, as a lone soldier, he cannot defeat that army on his own. He is powerless. However, when he brings in his own army (therapist, support group, sponsor, etc.), he has the power to defeat that army. He is not helpless.
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Understand that life isn’t supposed to be easy...and it would be boring if it were. There’s a quote painted on the wall of my gym “nothing worth achieving was ever achieved without effort.” I used to roll my eyes, but now I realize how incredibly accurate it is.
Imaging yourself having infinite wealth... once you’ve got the holidaying, partying, debauchery and materialistic spending sprees out of your system...unless you’ve cultivated some form of passion or cause you can devote yourself to, imagine how fucking unfulfilling and apathetic that lifestyle would be. Everything would lose its value, including relationships, and you’d struggle to find the motivation to do almost anything.
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Most people are distracted right now.
They’re distracted while they’re at work. They’re distracted when they’re with family and friends.
They’re distracted at the gym, on their commute, and even in the shower.
The mediocre majority will continue going through life this way, never experiencing the fullness of a life filled with deep focus and purpose.
Most people don’t prioritize learning and creating. They don’t care enough to invest in their personal development and growth.
Entertainment is more important. Most people have replaced achieving their life dreams and goals with TV, partying, and social media.
Their life is characterized by entertainment and distraction, not learning and creating.
As a result, they don’t have close relationships. They’re stuck in jobs they hate. Their life is on the fast-track to disappointment, and they don’t know what to do.
Entertainment and distraction is the enemy of creation and learning. They will keep you in mediocrity.
If you don’t want to end up living a life of mediocrity, focus on learning and education. It’s the fastest way to become extraordinary, wealthy, and successful.
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Somewhere along the line, we seem to have gained this idea that we need to enjoy every single second of our lives—that for some reason, we are no longer okay with putting in a few minutes of effort to get something great out of it. We’ve stopped putting work into anything that we don’t enjoy at that moment.
Get rid of that mindset. It’s holding you back more than pretty much anything else in your life. Getting things done is going to mean putting in effort. I know you don’t want to, and I do not care. The world does not care. The world isn’t going to coddle your ass because you just want to sit there on the internet.
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Fear of looking stupid is the #1 killer of dreams.
The worst part? The people who make you feel stupid are usually the ones least qualified to judge someone else’s life. Their own lives are falling apart, yet they constantly tear down others around them.
I was talking with my friend the other day, and he told me about an incident in 1st grade that would shape his life for the next 20 years.
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